Asking obese women to loose weight before commiting to her

I see where you’re coming from. I’ve only be able to pass by with seemingly near obese gals as girlfriends. Some slim online but in real life it never happened and not sure why to me. I’m fairly attractive but average in all sorts of areas in the Alpha male department in getting the slim attractive Blonde who has a tight figure.. I for one am attracted to allot.. I had a slim girlfriend but she was very high maintenance and it lasted two and a half weeks. It seemed to me that allot of Woman who have a tiny figure are more aware of them self’s then obese Woman. This is something to ponder on. It’s like the self esteem is so high that when all you is give them love they think highly of their selfs and future “hubby”. I’ve known plenty…

I guess what i’m trying to say is chubby or Woman with some fat on isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I’ve only ever felt love and acceptance because they can appreciate who they are.

I’ve asked my girlfriend to go to the gym with me and she wants to it’s just a matter of circumstances right now. She’s aware of her self as well but she doesn’t dwell on it every day.

 

I gave a fat girl a chance once. Don’t do it, they’re unlikely to change their dietary/ fitness habits.

 

Most, but not all overweight or obese women would prefer to be slim. If they were capable of losing a significant amount of weight, they would have already done so. An ultimatum won't be successful and will cause resentment that will likely end the relationship.

 

The problem with this demand is not that it's offensive. It's that it is unrealistic.

A person should eat healthily and work out because they care about their bodies as they would care about their children. Not because some other person asked them to in order to get into a relationship.

As a side note, it's more possible such a demand would work on a man for the long term than it would on a woman. Women have much more options than we have. It's easier to find a man who doesn't care about weight than it is to lose it.

 

No judgement.

Just real question: What do you bring to the table? what does she bring to the table?

Do you like the trade?

If you want an obese woman to lose weight before being with you that's your decisions and I 100% support it, but the question is, what do you bring to the table in return?

A relationship has to be an exchange. You want her to offer a great body in return, do you have a great body?

What fun or amusement or good moments you bring to the table otherwise?

 

9 times out of 10 when I see couples where one party is fat it’s the woman, and the man is the thin or in shape one. Also these days all the modern women who are overweight still want a ripped muscular Chad. It’s absolute insanity out there yet Men are still getting this unjustified blame that we’re shallow.

 

If you get a fat girl, she looses weight for u, gets in shape... she leaves u that moment as well. Because she now has "options" you know....

 

Asking an obese woman to lose weight just to be with you is unrealistic and you would be waiting a very long time. Of course she would want to lose weight and knows she should but doesn't have enough energy or discipline to get it done. She's comfortable enough how she is.

Side question- if an obese woman clearly wanted to hook up with you with you would you give her the opportunity?

 

Ahh so you were somewhat interested tho? It's ok to have an ideal preference but if you're going thru a dry spell I think it's normal to just take what you can get. Try to look beyond what she looks like and try to understand how she thinks and how you feel when around her. Give the big girl a chance lol

 

I am terrified of what this mindset can do to the man. Or any man for that matter.

 

I wont tell you not to be picky because we all have preferences. My philosophy is date who you want to date and don't date who you do not want to date. I think sometimes we must compromise in some areas but as long as we are not being over-picky everything is all good.