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Any tips to overcome AIED?!

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by ironmaing, Jul 11, 2019.

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  1. Jul 11, 2019 #1
    ironmaing

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    I suffer from PIED and AIED. Porn and Anxiety induced Erectile Dysfunction.

    Started nofap and feel great but the AIED has conditioned my body to fear sex. Whenever there is possibility of sex I get the fight or flight response. My stomach goes into a knot, my blood rushes away from my extremities, including my D :( and I can't relax.

    I love sex and love my gf, but my brain/body is scared of it. How do I change this?

    Has anyone tried self-hypnosis, meditation, or other practices that you could share?
     
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  2. Jul 13, 2019 #2
    hope4healing

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    First, does your gf know about your reboot? If not, i would recommend being honest with her about it. And, 23 days isn't really that long as far as rewiring your brain to remedy the PIED. It takes time. Maybe try kareeza, at least for awhile until you get past the anxiety? Here are a couple links for more information about it.

    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ybo...-brain/lovers-ultimate-sex-hack-karezza-2013/

    http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/karezza-sex-without-o.70145/#post-541725
     
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  3. Jul 13, 2019 #3
    Varg

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    Talk with her, you need her support now. Tell her everything, she can be confused like you now.
     
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  4. Jul 13, 2019 #4
    Trappist

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    Getting into recovery completely helped. Told my SO early and she been very supportive.
    @hope4healing Is right.

    Get into recovery,
    things level out and reverse.
     
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  5. Jul 14, 2019 #5
    ironmaing

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    Had a long conversation with SO yesterday, she again voiced her frustration at the situation and that she has lost the sexual spark due to lack of sexual confidence but still finds me attractive. She doesn't know what to do, on one hand she thinks i'm the one, but she cannot live without sex. I understand her. She accepted to be a little more patient, but she can't do it forever as she has needs.

    Pressure is high. She even said i could sleep with other women to get confidence up. I think i should start rewiring but i must admit i don't know how. Apparently its just getting with a girl but wonder if there is a way to speed it up and get erections naturally. Any tips?
     
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  6. Jul 14, 2019 #6
    hope4healing

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    I do not believe that sleeping with other women is the answer. I think that could possiblly hinder your progress, actually. Rebooting isn't just about being confident. It's about rewiring your brain to respond to real human connection and intimacy. Sleeping around is likely to feed into the dopamine frenzy similar to the way the novelty of P does.

    You can't speed up healing, but you certainly can slow it down if you're not careful. Try having a little patience. I understand that may be difficult since your gf obviously isn't very patient, but recovery takes time, like it or not.
     
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