Any ideas on how to find new friends?

That could be for your area, I tried it for my area but there was very little to nothing happening. There are other ways to meet friends and also women ofc, I have done it many times before. But with that being said it is very hard, maybe also depending in culture ofc. I would say I spend 95% of my freetime alone at the moment.

 

I will give it a try again also join a local club for one of my resting hobbies in hope of bringing it back to life and get some inspiration!

 

Join bible believing church with strong believers in Jesus Christ

 

Firstly, you need a reason for a friend to stay by your side.... Beliefs, hobbies, shared experiences and personalities

 

Same here, it may be due to a majority of population in the area that does not feel lonely?

 

True friends are hard to find bro. You just don’t meet guys somewhere and instantly find genuine true and lifelong friends. It just doesn’t work that way.

 

I am not sure. But in my culture we are not that open unless there is alcohol involved so it's not that easy to get to know new people just by starting to talk to them. That is usually considered strange and god forbid you do it to a woman that is not interested in you as a boyfriend.. Yeah I am a little bit bitter but I am constantly working on trying not to

 

Anyways summers are the worst, even if winter is pitch dark and extremely hard from a depression-perspective summers is always worst for me. Sitting alone or inside while people go with their friends or families to different things or just sit outside and talk. These months are suppose to be the best of the year but when you are lonely that's not always so. Which part of the year is hardest for you?

 

You still can feel lonely around friends. I have a group of friends since childhood, we still meet but i leave feeling bad. Its strange.

 

One way to make friends is to go to an event for a really niche hobby that you're interested in. A downside is that the friends may live far away from you.

Are you sure they're good friends? I was in a similar group but had to leave because things got too toxic. But it's possible your friends are fine.

 

They are good guys, cant complain. ts just in combination things start getting difficult... how many years did you need to leave?

 

I left them about seven or eight years ago.

Some bad signs to watch out for (or "red flags") include a lot of pointless envy / jealousy going on, people in the group getting much more or much less respect depending on how their life appears to be going, feeling uneasy before meeting up with them, a constant need for people in the group to start talking to other people outside the group rather than just having a chat within the group, and so on and so forth. Do some research on the subject of psychological narcissism. But yeah, this might not apply to your group. But maybe there are other difficulties such as just having less and less in common with them or something.

Nowadays I'm much more reluctant to get too involved with a group lol. But it's kind of a matter of identity. If you keep your individual identity strong, you (hopefully) won't get too mixed up in some unhealthy group identity. Oh yeah and watch out for if a particular member seems to be becoming the "leader" of the group (and in an often unpleasant way). Equality is best! In fact, toxic people don't really do equality.

 

It's not so much that you are having the problem, it's just the way it is after college.

Most people are focused on creating a family, and so they have to give serious blood
at the job.

If you are smart, family or not, while you are young and have energy, you should do the same.