All girls reject me except one...

And why didn't you want to be in a relationship with this one girl? I mean ok, at the beginning she just wanted to have sex with you, but it seems to me that in time she developed feelings for you.
With sex stories, do you mean things she has done with previous partners or things she is interested in? I don't really get from your text why you lost attraction to her or why you think she is a bitch. Maybe she has some fantasies that you consider disgusting, but you can talk about that.

 

Since when you need a girl to be happy?

 

Not to derail this thread from you onto me or anything, but I would to just make to talk about myself (and some others) sort of as an example. I'm 21, male, never had girlfriend, never had sex with a woman (although I did play around with some guys) and in general I feel very much the same way you do. I think it really depends on exactly WHY the rejection hurts you, why you feel a relationship is so important to you.

You are beating yourself up way too much my friend, the fact that you rejected that (bitchy, slutty, sketchy) female shows that you have self respect and won't just go out with any ole thing the cat drags in. To me this is crucial in life, most guys will bang any chick if she's hot enough, never mind her personality or her interests or her past or whatever. So you show a lot more respect for yourself than most men do, take pride in that. You should feel good about rejecting that girl, not bad. Going with this I have to make a point here, some people can live the rest of their lives alone and be incredibly happy that way, whereas some are in long term relationships and feel miserable, what makes you think that being in a relationship is so necessary? Not suggesting that it can't do any good for you, because it surely can provided you are with the right type of person, but its not all glitter and rainbows just because you hook up with someone. I don't know anything about relationships personally, but I can tell you just from looking from the outside that they require a lot of time and energy and sacrifices to be successful. In some ways they are actually bad for you, so don't feel to excited about getting wet now.

Women (as are men) can be very shallow, at least at first glance, so if you improve on yourself, they are bound to take notice eventually. Like if you focus on school and get the degree you need for a certain career, and you end up in a career that pays well and everything, then women would be far more likely to want you. You could use this example for other things but there you go.

 

Wow, I was going to post a thread in the Loneliness section until I stopped to read this thread. @jorgeder98 right now I'm feeling the same frustration you were feeling. I'm so grateful that I live in the US, there are so many pretty girls here compared to my previous country. It's amazing that I have such opportunities!!. On top of that, I have so much going for me, I look above average, I'm highly educated, have an exciting career, my goals are big and I'm moving steadily towards accomplishing them but damn it!! I can't believe I don't have the kind of girls I want in my life just because my dating skills are weak!.
There are some girls/women who find me attractive but they're below my standards! If there are better things that life can offer me, why should I settle for less!? Hmm I guess me being picky is a problem, ah but why aren't attractive girls attracted towards me!? the matches I get on dating apps are below my standards, the girls I cold-approach reject me even though my approach was bold. I know that dating is a skill, if I master that skill I'll have a huge success rate, and I'm doing something about it by cold-approaching almost everyday. But focusing too much on the outcome instead of the learning process. I feel so impatient! Dating is hard if you're not socially competent, I started to think, damn I wish I was not born so I don't have to deal with these desires and frustrations!!

But oddly enough, reading the posts on this thread, and typing this down is making me think clearly now
Outcome dependency has to be off the table to focus on becoming a stronger version of ourselves first. That outcome dependency of wanting sex, wanting a gf etc can turn into an addiction; constantly staring at women, constantly looking for pretty women, constantly feeling the urge to approach, constantly feeling envy of other couples, or guys who are PUAs etc, all this instead on learning and sticking to a routine.
We've got to sacrifice today for tomorrow's betterment; focus on sharpening the Axe so that it can cut down any large tree on my path. I took up the 6 month celibacy challenge to turn myself into the ultimate weapon, capable of accomplishing any goal. I had intended to start looking for sex/gf once this journey is over so that I take it on with a better mindset, and a better body. Now it's time to continue sharpening the Axe. I guess I got bored and frustrated of sharpening the Axe; I was thinking, damn it I've been sharpening it for so long, when the hell will I get to cut down some trees!? @melancholy king thanks for providing your rational perspective on this. You're right, I'm sure pretty women are also shallow and frustrated like me because they're unable to get the kind of guys that meet their standards. In time, once the Axe is fully sharpened, they will notice me.

 

You still haven't really said what was wrong with this girl, other than the fact that she's had previous partners.

If she hadn't been with a lot of guys, would you still not like her? What is her personality like? Do you get along? Does she live responsibly now?

Unless her past has left her with some sort of deep emotional scars that make her unstable today, it shouldn't matter that she's more sexually experienced.

 

Dudes,

Stop looking and you'll find some.

I felt the very same for many years. I was too "serious" and not popular enough compared to others.

The thing is: YOU WONT BE ALONE ALL YOUR LIFE. It's a lie. All comes in due time. You WILL find a nice girl that shares her life with you, but you have to be patient and keep talking to people and meet people without being always on the hunt.

The girl might come out of your blind spot...! Be good and fair to all girls, meet some without too much expectations, meet some girls thru hobbies of yours, etc...that might very well come out of nowhere...

 

OK, then those are good reasons to not be with her, but you never mentioned any of that, just that you didn't like her sexual history.

Which makes me wonder if you only came up with those other reasons after you found out about her past.

 

JORG,

Careful here. The girl you met, offered you to be your "fuck buddy". Although I don"t agree with it much, its more common nowadays. Maybe she can"t commit to a long term relationship. Have you had sexual relations with other girls yourself?
A lot of people here would die to have real sex! They are trying to stop fapping to porn, not to have real sex!
Also, you may want to have a girl that does not have that sex history (even a virgin???). Well, you can find that, but that girl "might" not know her body much, be real shy, etc...

Your call, but the girl you mention is just sexually active..you might have a good time with her, if the relationship is RESPECTFUL on both sides...

My first wife was sexually active before I met her.
My second wife was divorced (and I was divorced) when I met her...so she had sexual history before me....you catch my drift?

 

Just my two cents : read "No more Mr Nice Guy", by Robert Glover.
Honestly, you sound like the typical Nice Guy, and it could help you to know more about it (there's a great online support group with some helpful recovery plans).
And don't settle for less than a great woman.

 

Guys @Machin @BobDobbs @Ikindaknew , I notticed that a thing that could really rice your autoestim is doing great at other things, I might be fucked up in love, friendship and relationships. I can still do my best in my study field and in my other activities... I got a great grade in some courses and it really helped me to feel worthy, to feel that I am in some way a human of value.
I'd love to hear from you , how do you make yourself feel worthy[/QUOTE]

Yup, sometimes not focusing on relationship at all brings more people around you. But University is busy time for your guys...a few parties, exams long study time...you'll find more time some day...

 

It's often a sign that you're not interested in yourself, and you leave yourself behind. Nobody will love you more than you love yourself. That's what I learned 8 years ago. Do things that amaze you, that scare you, and that you'd be proud to have done. Bungee jumping, hike alone for a week, go visit a foreign country you always wanted to visit. It can be smaller, like try some kind of new food, show up dressed like a president (if you're not used to), start a conversation with someone you don't know.

Three things to do that changed my life:
1- write a little note about yourself, in a positive way, describing in an amazing way who you're going to be in a few years. Read it aloud every morning just after waking up, and every evening just before going to bed. Self talk is key, and in fact, you already view yourself as not interesting to others. Change the way you talk to yourself, and you'll change your life.
2- do some kind of workout at least five days a week. Not a big workout, just a set of push-ups or a set of squats is good (in fact, that's what I do). But do some kind of strength training. Your body is the vessel of your mind, and if your body's in great shape, your mind will be in great shape.
3- do one new little scary thing you'd be proud to have done every week, like speaking up your mind, even if it means being rejected : in fact you already feel rejected, so at least tell people what you think. You might even notice that you're getting more attractive to others when you speak up your mind.

Three rules to do these things:
1- consistency: do it whatever it takes. It's easy to do a set of push-ups, so just do it.
2- humility: don't aim to big. If you try to do a whole 1 hour workout every day for three months, you'll do it for two weeks then give up. Aim small. Baby steps. Consistency will do the rest.
3- accountability: get some kind of measurement and accountability. Use an app to remind you to do it, and find some people to be accountable of your progresses and your consistency (here is a good place).

 

It's pretty cool that this girl just wants to be a fuckbuddy.