After 90 Days: Porn addiction and Avoidant Attachment style

Both! I am happy and one may say settling too.
I've dated a lot of men, yet attracted to so little. He is the first one who I am happy with as a companion.
I'm trying to stay focus on myself. That fact that I haven't become over anxious and demanding for his attention, makes me feel really good. In some unclear way, I believe we are about equal on the spectrum, only we are on opposite sides. Every so often we may switch places. I'm learning a lot about myself. Instead of breaking down and losing control. I find strength. I'm happy to feel in control. I believe he cares a great deal about me. im willing to give it a try. If it becomes too much. I will be open an honest to him.

 

Yes, I'm very attracted to him.

 

You are clearly self aware and making yourself a priority! I have found in my 20 years of dating that I have never been able to find both in one man, meaning a best friend/companion and someone that I have amazing chemistry with and great sex. It's always one or the other. My current partner seemed to have all early on but as time went on I realized his problems in bed and low sex drive were not going away. I asked myself could at 40 I live with this and my answer was no. I need more. I often think part of the issue for me is that I'm an alpha woman and so chemistry wise I do well with alpha men. Except our personalities never jive because there are two alphas and no one will give in. It's the alpha male that usually can't handle that I out earn him or thinks I should be less outspoken. The beta makes a great personality fit but I have zero chemistry with and often is also bad in bed and unable or unwilling to change. With the changing gender roles today much more women are alpha. I follow a blogger who says you should marry a person who is a 5 or 6 on chemistry and a 10 on compatibility not the reverse. Since chemistry dies and compatibility does not. So I guess if you have to pick you pick friendship Over chemistry or sex. I just have not come to that point in me life that I'm ready to give up on that chemistry and great sex. To me it's the glue that holds couples together long term. So long as you are happy that's all that matters and everyone is different as far as wants and needs.