A tip a day keeps the P away (66 TIPS IN TOTAL)!

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“Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.”

“Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.”

“Success is achieved and maintained by those who try and keep trying.”

“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.”

“Try, try, try, and keep on trying is the rule that must be followed to become an expert in anything.”

— W. Clement Stone

 

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“Success occurs when opportunity meets preparation.”

“You were born to win, but to be a winner you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.”

“Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations. The best is yet to come.”

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.”

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.”

— Zig Ziglar

 

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Tips & Tricks on How Not to Do It (Part 1)

1) Have an all-or-nothing mentality.

• This attitude can blind you from the progress that you’re making. A reduction of problematic behavior, instead of a full elimination, is still progress.
  
• Everybody has to start somewhere. It is the same thing for recovering P addicts – it often takes months (or even years!).
• Don’t let slip-ups turn into give-ups. Keep on moving forward and avoid getting so upset that you completely abandon your recovery goals.

2) Think that quitting P will fix everything in your life.

• Yes, overcoming P addiction or problematic use has many potential standalone benefits.
  
• Many of the benefits you can experience from this journey are likely due to you living your life more fully.
  
• Quitting P doesn’t make you super-human but can help you regain the natural capabilities you were born with.

3) Continuing to watch P if you’re recovering from P addiction.

• If you are a recovering P addict, you almost certainly shouldn’t be using it at all.
  
• If you are watching P or similar alternatives (orgasm or not), you could still be conditioning your brain to P.

4) Not trying to improve yourself.

• A sedentary and unengaging lifestyle creates an environment where problematic P use can thrive.
  
• You want to live a life that is so fulfilling, with a schedule so full, that there’s no room for compulsive P use to leech its way back in.

5) Not taking quitting P seriously enough.

• Recovering from P addiction is far more than a one-month “challenge,” and recovery is certainly not a “quit overnight with these ten easy tricks”.
• Fully recovering from a severe P addiction could be the most challenging thing you’ve ever done.
  
• Despite how challenging quitting P might be for some people, it is possible.

6) Beating yourself up over slip-ups.

• Many P addicts try to quit dozens to hundreds of times before finally making significant progress towards kicking the habit for good.
  
• Most importantly, you have two options – let a slip-up or relapse set you back even further than needed with toxic shame, or use the slip-up as a learning experience, forgive yourself, and continue forward with a new resolve to pursue self-improvement.

7) Focusing too much on motivation.

• In reality, people aren’t always motivated, which certainly holds true for recovering P addicts.
  
• You probably aren’t always going to feel motivated to stick to your goals. You have to learn to stay P-free, even when you aren’t feeling motivated to do so.
  
• While your brain might be screaming at you to use P, recovery is a calculated decision to quit, one that is kept in a cool manner.

Source: https://nofap.com/articles/20-ways-to-not-quit-porn/

 

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Tips & Tricks on How Not to Do It (Part 2)

8) Being too focused on recovery.

• If you are always focusing on recovery, you are always thinking about recovery.
  
• If you are always thinking about recovery, you are always thinking about P.
  
• The focus should primarily be on building a new life of positive habits that keep your mind off of P and on your goals.

9) Not learning the basics of recovery and how addiction works in the brain.

• Knowing the mechanics of why our brains get hooked on P media is tremendously helpful in recovery.
  
• If you learn the science, you will have an explanation for why you experience certain things and always know that recovery is possible.

10) Listening too much to strangers on the Internet.

• We cringe at some of the misinformation and pseudoscience floating around about P addiction.
  
• If you read something on a random message board, please don’t just assume that it’s a fact.
  
• There is some advice circulating around that might be genuinely harmful to recovery.
  
• Do your own research and learn the basics of the addiction brain science, and you’ll be able to spot the misinformation.

11) Not developing new ways to cope with stress and emotions.

• Many porn addicts rely on P as an emotional crutch to get through the day.
  
• You’ll likely need to find replacement activities.
  
• If you fail to develop skills to combat other issues in your life, you might fall whenever you are hit a problem that quitting P can’t solve.

12) Not taking care of yourself.

• Maybe you are already doing this – and if so, great.
  
• But many addicts neglect their personal health, including not getting enough sleep, not eating well, not exercising, and living high-stress lifestyles.
  
• Recovery is a great time to start taking some steps towards living a healthier life.

13) Not relaxing enough.

• Some people strive a bit too hard for self-improvement during recovery, at the detriment of their wellness.
  
• Eventually, they often burn out and slip back into old habits. The goal should be a sustainable recovery.
  
• Give yourself some time to relax! Not taking care of yourself and being overloaded leads to feeling stressed out and unhealthy, which can easily lead right back to your old problematic habits.

14) Being too reliant on other people.

• Ultimately, you are the person who needs to quit P, not anyone around you (they won't change for you).
• The same even goes for blocker software. You have to be the one who blocks P out of your life.
  
• Ultimately, you are the decision-maker. You are the one who has to stick to your goals, show up to work, participate in accountability relationships, and go through the P quitting journey.

Source: https://nofap.com/articles/20-ways-to-not-quit-porn/

 

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Tips & Tricks on How Not to Do It (Part 3)

15) Partaking in your recovery without accountability partners.

• Addiction thrives in secrecy. Secrecy is almost a prerequisite for addiction.
  
• To escalate into addictive behavior, you often have to hide aspects about it and the consequences.
• By telling somebody about your problematic porn use and your decision to quit (such as your accountability partner), you’ll be adding external accountability to push you towards your health goals.

16) Not getting help, if you need it.

• Whether it is a therapist or a good friend, getting an accountability partner, or joining an accountability group, you might be missing out if you don’t get some kind of helping hand during your recovery.

17) Thinking that anyone else’s journey will be yours too.

• Every recovery journey is different. Take good vibes from others; but know you are different.

18) Over-complicating the recovery process.

• There are now 10,000s of pieces of advice circulating online on how to best overcome P addiction.
  
• This could quickly become overwhelming.
  
• Keep in mind that quitting P is as simple as not using P. There’s only one step.
  
• Everything else revolves around that one step. Avoid making it complicated.

19) Being overconfident.

• Just because you are doing well on week one does not mean it will always feel easy.
  
• Recovery from P addiction is not a linear process that gets better and easier every day.
  
• It’s usually a twisty, winding road of ups and downs, and you never know what is coming next.
  
• Even if you feel confident, which is good, the proper mentality is to take recovery day by day, because you never know what to expect next.

20) Being under-confident in your ability to quit.

• People lived without Internet P for many generations before you were born – so living life without it is entirely possible.
  
• Many people have successfully quit.
• If you ever feel like quitting P is a hopeless endeavor, read the thousands of success stories posted on NoFap. You can quit porn.

Source: https://nofap.com/articles/20-ways-to-not-quit-porn/

 

Well at day 66 I can say that I gladly reached my goal here on NoFap, one that I set for myself; it was a pleasant journey of learning and applying the methods to change my habit.

I documented (66) lessons in my journal, from all that others have written before me, with minor editing. Glad it helped anyone along the way.

I now leave my spot here for others who might benefit from it.

I understand that this is a lifetime journey, with its ups and downs, and that I need to pay the price EVERY DAY to remain successful.

Best wishes to all

 

You have deleted your account, so I think you're not coming back anytime soon And thats great, because it means you can carry on without this platform! Best of luck to you, and thank you for 66 tips to help yourself and others.