A final solution on how to keep conversation?

Well conversations are a two (or sometimes more) way thing. If you've been talking for a while it's usually the other party's turn to talk. If they don't, not much you can do. At some point you'll run out of stuff to say. But yeah, I felt the same. I think having hobbies and life experiences is important for conversations. So get some hobbies that are interesting (not watching tv, or games or books, everyone has those) that you can talk about. Even if they don't grasp it completely, you can explain it to them. Also the FORD method (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams)

 

Who are you struggling to talk to? I can honestly say one of the worst things you can do is overthink it, just strike up a conversation get to know who you're talking to. Small talk is fine but you need to get to know who you're talking to and to know yourself so that you can answer their questions.

 

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Talking about interests and reacting to what the other person says usually keeps the convo going

 

I feel your pain. I think work is something you can talk to almost everyone about because it isn't too personal so theoretically not bad for first conversations.

 

I recently watched a TEDx video called "The Magical Science of Storytelling". The key points here is that when you talk, aim to be suspenseful, funny and show empathy. This makes people feel engaged when listening. If people are engaged, they will be more prone to ask questions. Now this video is about presentation technique, but I think it translates to ordinary conversations as well.

 

Don't compare yourself to others, it's the same here in the forums if you compare yourself to others you're not going to have the same experience. Just be yourself the rest will come with time and confidence. I still struggle with this from time to time.

 

Check out this video. There's some great tips to be learned.

 

I too want to be a better version of myself it takes time, courage and commitment to do so. But I believe we can do it.

 

Most people like talking about themselves. So if you have nothing to say yourself ask a question.

The acronym I always use is FORE - Family, Occupation, Recreation, Education - they're the 4 topics people usually enjoy talking about when you first meet them and have a proper conversation.

There are many, many videos on Youtube dealing with the art of conversation. But if you become a good questioner and listener then that is already a great step forward.

Lastly, it is worth noting that the only way to be able to say anything interesting, is to have done interesting things or to know interesting things. Only activities and study can help you reach that point.

 

We can do this! Yeah I think time is the hardest part as without the patience to let time do its thing we lose our commitment and courage. Just over four days in now and I feel like I've got some courage back already.