[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

This is actually my first time on this kind of platform. I had enough and got myself to make an account to stay accountable with the other community members.

I understand your frustration. I have been frustrated towards myself and chastising myself by shaming myself.

Thanks for the advice and I will finally for once stick through with my commitment

 

@im on track I am not rude to you but doing 90+ nofap challenge requires lot of perseverance and hard work. For some people it's a daunting task. People relapse because they are suffering a urge lot. So plz don't mind.

 

This is the 12th day without PMO. I think my brain has started to rewire toward the good direction and my old bad habit are fading away.

 

Thanks for sharing this link! BUT..... everyone be careful... Down at the bottom, Amazon lists 'Customers who viewed this item also viewed...' and then there are some very triggering suggestions, the complete opposite of what you're looking for, such as '10 Best Free Porn Sites'... so just don't scroll down. I'm also wondering why this book is listed as 254 dollars.. but I'm sure it's a good read.

About edging. I don't consider it as ending a streak. However, I have noticed that when I edge, my streak doesn't last much longer. Maybe just a few more days. It's like if you're going to fall off a cliff and you're holding onto a rock with just your fingers and your fingers are slowly slipping from the sweat. This is edging time. You may survive the edging session, but the chances are you're gonna edge again pretty soon after and you won't make it and fall. This is what happens to me at least. And yes, the longer you edge, the more the dopamine flows. Just stay away from it.

 

Day 3/90

 

77/90...one day at a time..boarding for my trip yo St Croix, heading there for two months to helpnwith the emergency response efforts. I wanted to check in before departing. Be well my brothers.

 

day 1

 

32/90

 

Relapsed after 42 days around one month ago. Then successive relapses after every 6-7 days. Again going backward. I dont want to fall for it again.
Starting afresh from today.
Day 0.
STAY STRONG. Focus on FUTURE.

 

day 1 lets see can i stand for 90 days

 

Day 7

 

Day 50/90! I feel focused on some days are full of energy and getting alotof things done but certain days lacking in effort....

 

64/90

 

Day 7/90 successfully completed

 

Day 4. Hanging in there. One step at a time.

 

Yes i got tired of saying ive relapsed so this time it is time no more of this shit hope this post wakes up more people to push harder

 

Wow i feel really nice to see that htere is just another day without PMO, I have had ups and downs regarding my feelings, in terms of energy i feel better. one day at a time. i realize it is not a good idea to think in long terms of time...one day is enough.

 

Day 11/90
Had a wet dream. No more fapping.

 

i think i´m gonna create a copy/paste post for new brothers let´s start now

welcome brother, stay with us, sharing not only motivates you but also motivate others. here´s some pointers:

1 - know your enemy. read this book "wack: addicted to internet porn" from noah church, it´s free on his website.
2 - recognize beyond any doubt that your an addicted. not someone who has a bad habit. on "wack" there´s a test to see how deep is the addiction and how much is damaging you.
3 - once you accept the truth, recognize that you can´t control PMO usage, don´t waste precious time of your life trying to fit porn in your life. you can´t control this thing, see for yourself, if you could control this you wouldn´t be an addict in the first place. the only way to break free from the addiction is to abstain from all sexual stimulation till a point you have no desire to PMO. 90 days usually is the standard time, sometimes it may take long.
4 - motivate yourself daily to do the reboot. motivate several times especially in the first weeks, cause the urges and porn thoughts will be very alive and kicking. motivation can come from a text, a video, a music, whatever, anything that reminds you do keep doing the reboot.
5 - create physical barriers against PMO cause willpower alone will not do. this means install porn blockers and usage of electronic devices with screens facing exposure. in extreme measures forbide yourself from being alone.
6 - delete any sexual/erotic material that you have. if you keep something with you that means you´re keeping the flame alive.
7 - withdrawal is hard, sometimes harder than the addiction. but after some days/weeks the withdrawal ends, the addiction never ends. Prepare yourself for fatigue, irritation, deep sadness, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, etc... but don´t worry, after a while energy will start to rise and you´ll feel amazing . it´s worth all the efforts. to minimize withdrawal stay well fed, hidratated, an build a good sleep hygiene. sleeping pills and antidepressives can also help. don´t get drunk, excessive alcohol prevents your brain for rewiring, leads to (extra) fatigue, irritation and brain fog. it will also deplete your willpower making you more likely to relapse.
8 - in the reboot you´ll have flatline periods (total absence of sexual desire) and periods of strong urges.
9 - to deal with urges my recommendation is to let them be, just observe them, don´t engage in them. keep doing whatever you´re doing. the urge may be very strong, but it will pass, it will pass totally. in extreme cases, click the panic button on nofap, get out of the house or take a cold shower.
10 - do physical exercise regularly. that will boost your mood and release sexual energy in a positive way.
11 - write a goodbye letter to porn. be brutally honest. an addiction is also a relationship so cry your heart out, say all the things you want to say, and say goodbye.
12 - keep busy. this is the step i found more important (side by side with the daily nofap motivation). why? because you´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time as gone by. so fill the free time, work on your passions, live your dreams. one day at a time, create an epic life.
13 - the addictive mind will not break easily. it´s likely that you´re gonna relapse, relapse a lot. the key is too keep going, never give up. if you don´t give up you will make it, it´s garanteed. so in each relapse try to know something about yourself, how your mind works, what are the triggers. knowledge is power.
14 - avoid any kind of sexual stimulation, whether by touch, sound or image. stimulation will create dopamine rushs in the already unbalanced brain, increase urges and after that is hard to stop. so don´t believe your mind if it tells you to peak or edge. it never wants just that. after that, the addiction will kick in strongly and start pounding and pounding until it breaks you and put you on your knees. so it´s better to not even start. if you have a partner and want to have normal sex try to abstain at least on the first weeks to give your brain a rest.
15 - you can never go back to porn. this probably is the harshest truth you can hear (it was mine, and it is for many people) but it´s the truth nevertheless. why? 3 major reasons. 1 - you´ll be an ex-addicted, that means you will always have a soft spot for porn. if you engage in PMO again, sooner or later you´ll become an addict, again. 2 - PMO happens in isolation, there´s no social PMO, which means that not only your likely to associate exciting feelings to PMO behaviour, but also negative feelings, which means that you´ll associate PMO with pretty much everything that happens to you. in fact, that is the core mechanism for any addiction installation. 3 - in high speed internet, there´s an infinite suply of sexual material, new sexual material. dopamine is released on your brain not only by viewing and fapping but also by searching novely. once you give your brain a taste of the "stuff" it will crave for more. always more.
16 - breaking away from any hope of going back to PMO will make the reboot stronger and determinated. also, all ex-addicts firmly agree that no one ever wants to go back to porn cause life now is too good to be true, too good to go back to hell.

i wish you the best luck, strengh and focus my brother. don´t think on the 90 days, don´t think on the castle. just take it one day at a time, one stone at a time. believe in yourself, you can do it.

 

we´re with you brother. one day at a time. all together, we will do this.