[365-CHALLENGE] THE THREE HUNDRED AND SIXTY FIVE DAYS CHALLENGE !

I have lost control over myself the last few days...
but I am back again.
Day 0

 

Day 9.5/365

 

Day 13/365.

 

Day 7 completed ... Had a wet dream yesterday ... Don't know how and why it happened, mostly probably due to high water intake ...

 

Day 29 finish

 

Day 29
waking up early in the morning and taking a cold shower after doing exercise before sunrise have helped me a lot.
feeling good, my brain and body have become a bit goal-oriented.
i usually write the negative effects that fmo ing or pmo ing had on my mental and physical performance in compare to the time when i was a teenager and was in high school .at that time i was absolutely free and i had an astounding mental and physical capability. i used to get the highest scores both in my theorical subjects and in practical ones plus sport activities. writing the negative effects in a daily basis and comparing with my acme period has also cast a light on seriousness of negative effects of watching p or taking the time to think about them or fantasizing.
i came to the conclusion that the best way to gain a mastery over subconscious mind is to set goals in sexual part of our life, and put a limitation in that area ,i mean making it clear for ourselves that we just want to live healthy life with one woman and she would be our wife ,the one and the best one to choose and focus our energy on our life ,education and career.other wise this brain and its subconscious will wander in any direction it wants.
and i think it is the easiest and quickest way to take control of the subconscious mind,as dr wayn dyer said in his book :change your belief change your life.
In that point our brain will turn on some new centers in itself that is responsible for a new high performance life style and it will turn off the parts that are in charge of addictive negative behavours.

I will be glad to hear your ideas my friend?
so share any idea you have.

 

Day 29- Achieved another milestone! Next mini goal is 31 days no pmo.

 

Day2

 

Day 69.

 

100/365

 

95 days let me count the ways I'm more than 25% of the way. This is an amazing journey I have not looked at porn I have not masturbated I have not orgasm I control the boners and what they do they no longer control me snuggle with wife last night major wood minute later mind control fade away. Woke up this morning was used as a divining Rod to piss in the yard and point its way to the coffee maker God chooses she decides happy trails

 

Day 140/365

Don’t let your guard down .....

 

Day 2/365

 

12 days down

 

Day 2/365

 

Feels good to still be PMO free!!!

 

PMO is a bad habit. Habit, after all, is simply when our brain launches into a preprogrammed 'zombie mode'.
Habits have four parts:
1. The Cue: This is the 'trigger' that launches you into 'zombie mode'. Recognize what launches you into your zombie mode(aroused mode). Cues usually fall into one of the following categories: location, time, how you feel, reactions to other people, or something just happened. Do you look something up on the youtube when you are alone and then find yourself masturbating? Do Instagram pictures make you feel aroused? If yes, then develop new cues. Don't use the internet when you are alone. Use Instagram only when you are in a public place. A cue can neither helpful nor harmful. It's the routine or the reaction to that cue that matters the most.

2.The Routine: Once you find out what triggers you to masturbate, you can make changes. You can remove most of the cues but sometimes you will unintentionally watch some sensual images or read something that will arouse you. Then you can change your reaction towards that cue. For eg. You know you watch porn after the dinner( you've identified the cue), you can reshape your reaction to that cue by switching off your phone and laptop before going to dinner. Or when you feel aroused, you will come on nofap community and write about your feelings, emotions and your goals( as I am doing now).

3. The Reward: This sometimes requires investigation. Why are you masturbating? It may be for a sexual pleasure. Or as a reward when you worked so hard whole the day. The best thing you can change your rewards.
Let's say I feel aroused and I came here and wrote about my feelings and emotions on nofap community instead of watching porn and masturbating, then I am reacting to the same cue differently by changing my routine. But the reward that I am getting is almost the same. I will get likes, support from other people and it will also create a sense of satisfaction as well.

4. The Belief: The most important part of changing an extremely addictive habit like masturbation is the belief that you fight it. You may find that when the going gets stressful, you long to fall back into old, more comfortable habits. The belief that your new system works is what can get you through. Developing an encouraging culture with like-minded friends can help us remember the value that, in moments of weakness, we tend to forget. All it takes a one bad day to turn back to our original bad habit of masturbation. But if we believe in our system and our values we can fight the temptation. The belief can be made by being with the people who have the same goal as you have, by sharing your struggles, your weaknesses with them. This is how belief can be created.
For eg. If I have a very bad day at work or I feel aroused due to some reason and I think nothing is working out to get rid of that temptation, I just imagine about the guys who are PMO free for years. I think where I am now and where I want to reach. And that mental contrasting works most of the time.
This is what I wanted share with you guys.
Make your life a masterpiece!

 

2 days.

 

Thanks for sharing. All good stuff!

 

The question of boundaries is vital and I think it is something that needs to be brought to the forefront of one's mind on a regular basis. Unfortunately, this usually comes only in retrospect after a person makes some mistakes.

I find that when I am fully convinced, having an "all-in" approach, I have no problem with very strict parameters and I admire them. Over time, these start to corrode, and the mind starts to accept thoughts that this or that is acceptable, that the excuse list starts to become more and more credible, that the aha! I've brilliantly discovered a loophole to get lost in and maybe a technicality! lawyer seems to have some authority, that the counter starts to take on a value that may rival what is being counted, etc. These have honestly been at times transiently persuasive or tempting, but I do not admire them in myself, and they have never led me to anything particularly beneficial in the long run.

Each person has to wade through this material ultimately on his own, depending on where he's at in his development. For myself, I have accepted that these initial strict thoughts are the right ones. I told myself that I will check in to this thread, from the beginning, every day that I am able, and I'm going to follow through with that to the end. The way to really strengthen the will is to be smart about commitments and shoulder responsibilities, and then to stick by them come hell or high water. The way to defeat the lie is through honesty. A famous quote from Louis Brandeis:

"Publicity is justly commended as a remedy for social and industrial diseases. Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants; electric light the most efficient policeman."​

Get it out in the open. The way to restore integrity as a whole person is through honesty, internally and externally.

I want my counter to reflect a "zero tolerance" policy instead of reaching the "goal" by making it more ambiguous rather than more pure, focused and refined.

These are just my own thoughts about my own saga, and are intended to at least incite a continuation of the self-examination process for anyone here who has begun to partake in the process of this journey.