Checking in. Day 12. It's good to see all Musketeers still on the wagon. Well done guys. No relapse, no surrender. Let's go!
I relapsed, just couldn't hold off this time but will come back stronger with more resolve. Thanks for your support @Gazan @born3 @JJ_Kino @x_Nocturnalis_x the past five days. I regret that I couldn't go further with you all but I'm rooting for you to get as far as you would desire in this. I need to get better at realizing the porn urge, identify the trigger, and take decisive action to avert/shift my behavior. If anyone has any suggestions as to how to improve in this area I would welcome and appreciate your feedback.
Yes P and M are ruining our lives and sending the wrong signals to our brains during sex. Just wondering if it can ever be cured at all...?!
/salute One thing I've learned recently about NoFap... it's not enough to want to reboot, you have to NEED to reboot. Keep in sharp focus the positive changes in your life you will be able to accomplish once you have successfully rebooted. Don't get lost in the haze of fantasies and become apathetic about the impact to the rest of your life... in other words, don't get lost in the trees, keep the forest in view at all times. One of the hardest things in NoFap, maybe the hardest thing, is not letting a single reset turn into a full on relapse. You fell once, now put down another streak straight away, no matter how miserable it feels to do it. The impact on the length of your next streak will be monumental...
Oh mate I wish I could see both your posts earlier. Nevermind, pull yourself together and we again. Don't need to leave the musketeers!.
Try not to let your brain tell you that you've failed. One thing that I have learned and am working on is the idea that sobriety and recovery aren't the same thing. Sobriety is a big part of recovery, but true recovery is deeper. Someone on this forum suggested Recovery Nation. I've been working through the free workshop and I've found it very insightful so far. I've had a lot of ED issues as well. It has gotten better but not a full recovery yet. Anyway I can only speak for myself and by no means am I out of this yet, and by no means do I have the formula, but you've done such great work so try not to lose sight of that. I went something like 7 months sober a few years back and instead of getting right back on it after a relapse, I just went deeper and things got worse and all progress that I did make was lost. Sounds like you have found some inner peace and healing so try to remember that. Don't beat yourself up over this.
wow great to see folks active in here again..been a while since I have been around but I would love to come on here again and be helped in my journey toward accountability...and help you all to what ever degree possible...I haven't had any real quality streaks lately so I am hoping this time I can stay on track. Day 7
Thanks for the advice, I can see how that does happen to me, I got really bogged down in the moment and feel stuck and then hopeless and yeah I think I got to keep this as my primary goal above everything else and just trust that others things will fall in place (at least much more easily) once I have laid down the foundation of NoPMO. Will jump right back into it. @JJ_Kino Thanks for the encouragement brother, I'm right back at it now and am poised to start another long streak
Thank you! Thanks for your words and for sharing my friend. I wish you all the best in your recovery journey as well.
@Sam78 sorry to hear that. Obviously a reset is not what we want but there is always something to learn. Today is a new day and what we do today is what matters. All the best.
Checking in. Things are feeling somewhat better, I am not eating the best which I really need to sort out. The mindset to stay away from anything PMO related is strong. The cost is too high, the return too little - that is my thinking. We got this musketeers!
Day 7. Active Musketeers: @x_Nocturnalis_x @Gazan @born3 @JJ_Kino One week down, many more to go. We got this!
slept horribly last night, felt the mind wandering toward P...hoping i can sleep well tonight so that i don't have to deal with that trigger again tomorrow
