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What a trouble! Fear not. Everything can be solved in this life. Firstly, we have to work on your self-esteem. Ask yourself who are you? What do you like doing? What are your goals?. Remember that you DO have a value and nothing that you may have done can reduced it as long as you repent. If you want to, I would ask you to write a journal in the Rebooting section or send it through to PM to me. At the end of the day you'll write what you did, how you felt and if you had any issues regarding this. Avoid those kind of chats for your sake, they are not good for you and even less those webcams.

P.D: I just want to add one thing. You don't need a partner to be happy in life. However, if you feel like wanting a partner once you have re-built you self esteem and have enought trust with him you can be open and tell him what is going on.

 

Good advice from @Alma1995 there. I too struggle with web cams but so far I'm 14 days clean. I also enjoy being submissive occasionally and I understand the appeal of receiving compliments from other people. I think you need to ask yourself whether your actions are bringing you closer to your goals or further away. I'd imagine it's the latter. Might I suggest trying some self-esteem/confidence boosting techniques?

 

Just found this thread. Online sex chat is way more addictive for me then porn itself. I've wasted so many hours in the last few decades in chat rooms. Used others pictures to create fake identities. It was my way of fantasizing about attractive women I know, my wife, her friends, her sister etc. over the years and hours chat would suck me in making my fantasies darker and darker always in search of that rush. I'm 27 days clean right now...every day is a battle

 

Your experience is the same as mine. I managed to set up a complex block on chat rooms and haven't been in them for weeks. Logging into a chat room is no longer a reflex.

I would be interested to compare how chat rooms sucked away your time, your REAL aspirations and your energy. Keep strong.

 

I think they really impacted my relationship with my wife. I would waste so much time chatting online in secret. When I was done I would feel so ashamed of myself and I would be rude to my wife because I was hiding shame. I would share pictures of flu wife or her friends and then feel awful for violating their trust

 

I haven't went to chat rooms,but did go to cam cam girls. I have deleted my accounts. I once went on Craiglist personals man woman for man woman and traded pictures of my lady with a guy for his wife's pictures. I fantasized able meeting another couple for same room sex.

 

I have heard about the sex chat, but never treid it. Basiclaly I am pmo free for more than 3 months. (well i orgasmed with my ex gf some time ago) And I thought oh well ill try those hookup sites. As I said I never knew how things work there, anyway I logged into on of them, had chat with few girls, and then one girl said don;t be foolel, most of the girls here are escorts. And I wasn;t expecting that to be honest I thought rea girls would want real sex with real guys. Anyway I loged in to another website, and the thing is You gotta pay for membership, and I was thinking to do it (glad I dindt pay 20 eur for 1month ). to be honest I wasnt aroused, nor i had a boner once when I was there, I really genuinely wanted to meet a girl that would want no strings attached sex how naive, well I'm glad I didn't get sucked in to that stuff. Im gonna delete my account there, because to be honest I got alot of attention form girls all over the world, not only from my country and I was happy, but then what else could I do with them besides masturbating over cam or while chatting. I used to sexting with my ex, and the rush is crazy and we both say things that we don;t even wanna do later, thats weirdest stuff . We people prefer imaginary world rather than real Ok back to normal life and start working for my future

 

That's what I do also, I look for post on Craigslist and then send people naked pics of me and my wife and there it goes!

 

Chat is a huge problem for me. In reality, I'm extremely picky when it comes to relationships. I've never had a hook up. I'm kind of proud of that. It doesn't stop me from fantasizing though. I started chatting about 14 years ago on MySpace. Yes MySpace! There's something about finding someone as lonely as I was that was so appealing. I've met nice ladies & after a short time, the language gets really raw. That's the thrill for me. Finding regular people & unlocking that hidden desire.

I hate it. It's tough to stop. I can avoid porn but chat is brutal.

 

Chat rooms have had the same effect on me as porn has. Makes me feel terrible about myself and vow left and right that I won't do it again. Also, even if it's another person talking to me, I've never felt any connection to them or anything. It is a solo experience just like masturbation. And it is a waste of time.
Don't toe the line; chat rooms come in the same category as porn and you're better off without it.

 

I give it up but need to delete the accounts. I'll go a month & just take a peek. I'm fine unless I get a response. Then I'll chase the high until I get it. I'll go until I get the lady to become as raunchy as me. Then I'm satisfied & don't remember why I was on the site. Same as with porn. It's great until I'm finished with it & then I don't understand why I look at it. I hate this.

 

Absolutely man, I mean it was worse when I was in the service which makes sense to me. A young sailor fresh outta boot camp hardly seen any women, of course I'm gonna fall for those links and even after all the money I lost and everything I've learned from my experiences I still manage to get sucked into that crap. It's aggravating, man.

 

Exactly! While you may be chatting with a real person, it's not a real connection or real intimacy at all. It still a solo experience that leaves you feeling empty. It's done anonymously and is a porn substitute that has a powerful draw because of the interactivity and illusion of being a real connection. Adult chat rooms were my poison of choice for many years. I too would try to unlock a woman's kinky or naughty side and see how far I could go in bringing that out of her. It's like I got a sick pleasure in corrupting her and feeding on any sliver of an erotic fantasy that I could stir up in her.

 

I wasn't even going to sex chat sites. I have a plentyoffish account. I will talk to a lady really nice. Usually I can tell quickly if I can get her to go down the same path as me. It's so damn wrong. I'll look at pictures to see which ones might be lonely. It's a sick process.

Talking helps so much. It's like holding up a mirror to myself.

 

That's pretty deep man.

 

Big part of my story and struggles man. Would be happy to speak further and support, share, listen etc. stay strong brother.

 

Yep. This was almost certainly the thing that pushed porn from "I'm just looking at pictures" to "I'm interacting in an intimate way with someone other than my wife", and made me realize that i had clearly stepped over a line.

When I decided to do this, I dug up all of the accounts I had, deleted them if possible, or removed all content and changed the password to a random string and the recovery email to one I deleted.

It was worse than wasted time. It was destroying time.

 

Grunch

Chat sites are worse than porn in some ways imo. In my experience it's more of a time drain. I used to spend hours and hours browsing chat rooms and making posts looking for someone with my specific fetishes and interests. Then you would find someone and they would leave halfway through the fantasy and then you start browsing all over again. I wasted so many hours of my life doing this.

My solution has been to use K9 web protection under a dummy email account and lose all of the associated passwords. I am now unable to see any porn or adult web sites on my home pc or laptop and would have to re-install the OS to do so. This has been one of the most effective strategies for me.

 

Exactly the same experience as me. Now that you're no longer wasting hours in those chat rooms, are you finding you have periods of boredom as you ajust to having more time in your life?