Hi

Saludos burbujas, yo también estoy solo en esta vida las pocas personas que conozco no las considero mis amigos.Pero la verdad es que me la paso bien así, De la soledad he aprendido que estar solo no es triste, porque así trabajas más en ti(como ir al gimnasio), para alcanzar la mejor versión de ti, ahora sentirse solo es más diferente porque te deprimes más fácil y llegas a sobre pensar demasiado.

 

Hi @hiimbubbles

I don't have much advice but wish you the best! My guess is your current work doesn't require much involvement with coworker? Self-employed? I know that can make things more challenging since I've met a lot of my friend through work. Maybe you can network with others in your field and that can grow into friendships both online and offline?

 

Hi, there are different way to make friends. Most of them are joining a group of people with common goals/interests. Work and school is basically that but you can also look for other events in your area - sports,cooking,dancing,learning a new language etc. Now, even when put in a group of people with common goals/interests you'll still have to put in the work. I've noticed if I wait for other people to invite me to do something it rarely happens. So you can challenge yourself to be the organizer of events. Doesn't have to be huge - going for walk/picnic if weather is nice or simply have tea and play board games in a bar for example when weather is cold like now. I also rarely act as the organizer but when I do I notice how hard it is to sync people's schedule and get everyone go out somewhere... even my close friends. But that's natural people are gonna flake for good or badly justified reasons. My point is if you are the organizer you'll better your chances. Another good advice is pretty much the same - join a club let's say reading club and be really social with people. Say hi, get to know their names try make small talk and if people like you they'll open up. Then you can exchange phones or whatever social media people use these days and take it from there write/call each person 1 by 1. It's basically the same you have to put in work but you are not organizing multiple people. I mean after finishing school/uni it's hard making friends not gonna lie. But you can focus on quality not quantity. General tips I guess is smile, be friendly, ask people what they are passionate about or what they are working on and why they do it. Speak clearly and listen to them, then share about yourself. Both parties should be interested in each other otherwise it's not friendship. Oh and general tip - try to have irl friends rather than online ones. I don't want to diminish online friendship but from my experience online friends are less committed. After they stop playing the game you are playing together and their life moves on they simply stop communicating less and the friendship disappears. All my guild/clanmates have moved on and stopped writing so have I. Even in this forum all my Accountability partners stopped writing except one. And we have beacme not so much AP's but penpals which write to each other every other month. So yeah those are my thoughts on the matter, there are many ways to approach this, but you must find what works for you. And also ask yourself if it makes you happy, fulfilled and generally improves your life. Quality friendships can vastly improve your life but bad friendships (if you can call them that) can ruin your life very fast.

 

Welcome to the forum.

 

I KNOW HOW IT FEELS. I HOPE YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TO.

 

Just like me.

 

I don't have much friends either, pretty much none really

I work kind of weird hours.. sometimes I work on the weekends and at night until 10pm. So its not too weird of hours but it isn't the traditional 9-5 job with every weekend off.. so it kind of puts me in a tougher spot to be part of the social life in society

 

Yes, online is fun. But we all need real friends in life. Those who are in real life matters the most. Online friends are not that much of help if we don't know them in real life. Here I can find some friends but they are not always available and sometimes they don't respond when I need them. Also people have their own lives. They come and go in this forum. Those who suffer from pmo addiction have to look at life differently. At least staying in this forum helps them to remind about their problems and the urge to recover from it. It's like believing in certain things that can work for us. But there are many problems in life that are very difficult to solve.

 

Pmo is destructive

 

Don't play video games. Start a hard mode reboot.

 

Hey just do what you like to do, few videos games is different then few times watching corn there ie no moderation in that, videos games there is so is that for sugar, bad food etc moderation. Smoking and alcohol you cant find moderation in that

 

Thats fine if you dont overdo it. During the flatline i feel like shit and cant do nothing somi rest. On good days i go outside etc so yeah better then pmo

 

In my opinion.. we should learn to develop the art of meeting and socialsing as we are human beings .. in my experience i regret for ignoring developing the art of socialising.. i too was happy alone doing my own stuff not caring what the world goes on with 2/3 close friends. As time goes on they have also drifted away living their lives and i am alone. Now i can say i have zero friends. But in my opinion i am missing one of the greatest character of human being by ignoring to socialse. I am trying to learn socialising. It is a bit difficult though but i am still trying. And at the same time in my opinion while socialising we should also very careful about our very steps, thoughts and mouth. In my opinion ancient renowned person like aristotle, pythagoras, seneca, socrates were all social people at the same time doing what they love.. They are truly courageous.. i envy their lifestyle.. fearless and brave.

 

And finding hobbies that you enjoy is surely key to success here, so well done you. It’s those dead times I struggle with, when you have little to do, so best to keep busy I’d have thought.

 

Seems that You have Social intimacy through playing videogames. Probably, You are looking for emotional intimacy.