35 and Older Accountability Group

happy friday! party and party and go!

 

Thank you friend! Appreciate it! Check in saturday

 

Checking in. On Day 4. Had a solid few days and now have the weekend and most of Monday to work on a project that I'm excited by. If I can dive deep into that, there would be no need to escape. Meditating this morning and going to the gym in the afternoon.

Update: I had a good, productive morning but then couldn't get to the gym. I was exhausted from the week and took a long nap and then couldn't drag myself outside. I could have done other things but fell into surfing and soon relapsed. I took all social media off my phone--the mindless scrolling through bullshit after a great, creative morning was dispiriting and sapped my already depleted energy. I'm also going to take a month off alcohol. I have a few busy weeks coming up and need to remove auto pilot.

 

Thanks so much! Ended up working on things little by little until I got into a flow. Trying to use that concept at gym now too where I do my least favorite exercise first.

 

"I have read the rules and would like to join this group."

Hello I've started the counter today. I have hope that I'm in the right path. My Goal is no PMO. This is my first day here so please help me to keep on track.

Thank you !

 

I've just looked at my counter of 26 days and have had to pinch myself that I am actually there, approaching a month when so many times I was in despair over making 3 days and then relapsing. It was a pattern that I could not break, fooling myself that every time I got to 3 days or so it was easy from there on and I could do it without breaking a sweat. It has been hard and several times I've been SO close to relapsing.
For example, last night my SO was away and this would have been a classic binge night for me before. My mindset has changed and I just kept myself busy with other things.
For anyone reading who has not made it this far yet - it does get easier!!! Stay strong and avoid those triggers!

 

Checking in day 42, all good

 

Check in sunday

 

Thank you ! Knowing that there are people fightng by my side, is already strengthen me!

 

1 week without PMO or edging. Listening to an audiobook in bed last night helped me not think about sex and also helped me fall asleep. Good energy this morning.

 

That is excellent!! So happy to hear that. This is a bit of an issue for me myself at the moment. I have a number of uncomfortable tasks that I need to do for different reasons, and procrastination makes them twice as hard. I updated my nofap signature to include the quote "The best way out is always through," and I'm always trying to keep that thought front and center when it comes to getting my stuff done. Keep fighting the good fight, Freebird.

 

Good Morning brothers,
"I have read the rules and would like to join this group".

 

Update. 21 days into the new goals. I feel like I've struck the perfect balance regarding PMO. During my 6 days of no PMO, I feel no temptation to do it. Not even to edge. And during my 24 hours where it is allowed, I feel positive benefits from it. It feels completely different when you know you are in control over the behavior. So far so good.

 

Okay to join here?

 

Good Morning my brothers,
I just finished the 90 days PMO free challenge. I am now embarking into establishing a healthy relationship with this sexual energy for the rest of my life. I am committing to living free of PM....I will reserve the sacred O for sharing with a loving partner which may never happen...lol. I look forward to the fellowship here.

 

Checking in with 93 days

 

Checking in having made it past my first target of 30 days - day 31 here and I didn’t even realise! Just been too busy, and when using a mobile phone to access the site I don’t see the tracker.
Been noticing a few things recently:

1. Much more confidence and clarity in conversations, banter and general interactions
2. No-one else seems to be noticing anything different about me though - or not saying anything
3. Not a huge amount of desire for sexy time with the OH - guess it’s a delayed onset flatline?
4. Still really appreciating women I meet, but my appreication is no longer in a fantasy P way. But it’s appreciation. Seems to be reciprocated (subliminally?) in that it’s so much easier to have a bit of banter, or I catch a smile from them and look in the eyes. I’m enjoying that!

So how am I doing?
- very few triggers and urges for P or M - good news!
- Into unknown new territory for me with 30+ days!
- still doing the cold showers daily, although haven’t seen a substantial benefit yet
- meditation continues to be my key to this.

Just need to get things back on a good grounding with the OH, who a) hasn’t noticed any changes in me, b) seems to get pissed off with me over small things way to easily, c) hasn’t been interested in any sexy time either.
Now, normally, these would be major triggers for me to go find a comfortable place where none of that mattered ... Porn. But none of them have led me down that path, which I see as a big positive.

Onwards to my next target - 60 days (and some sexytime with the OH!!!) Off on another work trip for the week, so back to being careful in hotels again.

 

"I have read the rules and would like to join this group"

Going for a 7 day streak