Hello everyone, I discovered NoFap 3 days ago and i have been reading and searching since then. I'm so excited for it. There was always a issue with me, i was always tired of living and i couldn't understand why. I was masturbating once a day or twice a day. I thought that was normal and every guy does that. Even the ones who have girlfriend. I thought that if a guy is having sex with his girlfriend once a week, then he masturbates other days. And i normalized it at my brain. My sense of reality about world was so wrong and it affected my interactions with other people. Because as i said i didn't know what was wrong about me and meeting with porn wasn't my fault. As a result, i ended up not having a girlfriend for 3 years and i blamed girls for it. Because i thought i was a normal guy. Watching porn is normal thing for all teenagers around the world and i realized that this is a terrible thing. I want to back normal and fix my mistake. This site and this awesome community gave me hope. And i hope i can change myself. And i hope we all can accomplish our goals. Greetings to everyone again!
Hi roboto. I know we will make it I want to add something to my post. I also didn't know if a man could live without masturbation for 30 days. I thought it was impossible. To be honest i still think it is impossible. It seems like i should test it on myself. lol
Hi. Welcome to forum! Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about. Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
Hey @BAZBAZ , I'm nobody special on here. Just a regular user saying, "welcome". There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope). My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program. Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary. 1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program. 2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery. Learn the NoFap Program The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used. They are: Download the free Getting Started guide. Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here! Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction! Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one. About NoFap. Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works. This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction. Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off. If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms. GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options. You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum. Get Involved with the Community The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others. Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can: Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group. Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread. Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums, --> L PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.
One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @JackMcWaffles - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/169456/ --- @ThePolisher11 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/172939/ --- @LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/ --- @Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/ --- @ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/ --- @Mr.Imperfect - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/164547/ --- @GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/ --- @Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/ --- @Tomoya Okazaki - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/ --- @Fortitudo - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/ --- @Dragonnlife - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148/ --- There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start. This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here. --> L PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal. The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page. Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time. Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar. -
For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles. I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship. @I_can_and_I_will @JackMcWaffles @Mr.Imperfect @Inqonyama @Toughboy @romlel @LeoJohn @Gray Wolf @StarLightReboot @Chriss27 @ludwig525 @hoping_cannon @SteelshoT @reystronaut @2525 Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles. So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself. Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles, --> L
