Question for those who've gone 30+ days no porn

That is ridiculous! Urges occur even when you are not on a computer. But even if urges arise when you are online, having a porn filter won't stop the urges. Porn filters simply slow down the speed at which you can access sexual material.

 

It might seem counterintuitive, but having sex triggers urges to relapse. So having less sex, not more, would be better tbh.

 

Yea but the more you can at least distract your mind from porn, the better.

 

I used to have this mindset as well. Though true, I've gained a perspective that I think is fair. For some people where the urges are too strong, I think a filter can help prevent or put a break on it. Sort of serve as a panic button or reminder that you're supposed not supposed to be on those sites. Like training wheels. As time goes on and one doesn't need the training wheels anymore, i.e. they've developed enough self-control and willpower to resist the urge without any filter, then by all means go without.

Personally, I've never done a filter because I don't think I need the training wheels and my urges aren't that strong. Also because some of my common ways of accessing porn don't involve just opening it up on a browser where a filter could easily block it.

 

Of course, but a porn filter will not prevent you from having urges in the first place. You must see that is just not correct.

 

How can you demonstrate that a porn filter will prevent you from having urges? See my comment immediately above^.

 

Not sure why you're asking me that - I never said a porn filter will prevent you have from having urges. It prevents you from acting on those urges, ie watching porn, ie prevents you from doing what you're trying to avoid doing which is watching porn, the long-term goal. We will always have urges. There's no reason to argue on that, it's quite undeniable. But by having a barrier (who knows how effective the barrier actually is), it at least has the potential to keep our urges from actually becoming active and watching porn. If you watch porn, you'll just make your urges stronger/more common.

 

Your family may never know, but they would be very proud of you. And probably already are! Thanks for sharing.

 

hey what do you say mentally before, during, after the urges? Might help to say something like 'I dont like that stuff anymore'?

 

I don't really linger on it. It's more like "I don't need it and don't care for it anymore, it's so destructive there's nothing to gain from it" but I just do other, productive things instead. Today I finished my resume and sent it in, sent out a message to some old professional contacts, and cleaned up my desktop. I'm about to go get some groceries to cook something. I just have so much more time to actually be productive and happy with myself now instead of lounging around and fapping to porn.

 

fuck ya! fuck you internet too! lol

 

First off congratz on your 28 days in reboot! Keep going not a certain period of the day, only very big urges when i failed on an exam, once when i saw a very explicit photo on an online "newspaper" and when i was alone in my house for the first 2 months but I went for a walk or be surrounded by people. I was very challenged some times to give up and almost there to look for that but I didn't. I thought that i should have started again and I didn't want to. P is bad and ruins your life

It is normal and it will pass. I am in a few days 6 months in reboot. Stress def is a big factor. A life without p is good and beautiful. I can see now life better and more positive. Having a goal helps me a lot to keep going with my reboot, also R Tribe app. Now it became natural.It is like i have never had those addictions. I feel free and i would never give up what I have reached so far. I am happy. Keep fighting it is so worthy