So sorry to hear about that but I'm glad it sounds like you're handling it well. With my wife's family there was a completely irresponsible approach to her safety. Even when there were suspicions about a particular family member everyone just turned their backs and hoped it would just go away. I still have a hard time around my in laws because of what I see as outright neglect on their part. And to this day she's adopted this approach as well - a kind of just forget about it and never talk about it method of coping with her past. What I worry about is what will the next thing be? I think I'd be naive to imagine that I can perceive every obstacle that lies in the path of our young ones. The rate of change is greater now than it was when I was a kid, and the potential pitfalls are more numerous. This stupid porn thing really got its claws into me and really messed me up. While I am not transferring blame and take full responsibility for my actions, I know that my kids are just people too and people are flawed and tend to chase the easy pleasures. The pleasures just get easier and easier - I'd be lying if I said I was happy about the world my kids have been born into.
Thank you! I worry about that too! Honestly, sex robot dolls seem to be the new thing that is invading and it's really freaking me out. A futurologist said that one day it will be normal for humans to have sex with their robot dolls... Arran Squire for instance is the maker of a sex doll and he keeps it in his house with his kids and the kids think that "samantha" is part of the family.... It scares me how those children will grow up regarding relationships...
Thank you so much! He was abusive to me on many levels and I foolishly stayed for years. When my daughter told me about what he was doing...that was end of his abuse in our lives. I promised her she’d never have to see him again. She told me she forgave him which was amazing for her to do at such a young age and it reminds me of how important forgiveness is even if it’s not deserved!
This is a great thread! Congratulations @anewhope! I'm a father of five kids, three girls and two boys! Ages from 17 to 7 years old! Our daughters were born first! In Greece and especially in Crete things are a little different, but just a little. Our oldest daughter has experienced abuse from her Karate instructor 4 years ago and had the courage to say it in the first time. We left that school immediately. There were a lot of talking for that incident. But there was visible the good job my wife had already done. There was never a clear conversation about sex, or abuse. We always talked about those acts as everyday's possibilities. As a tradition in Crete, father is the leader of the family BUT his wife is in charge! Things are changed nowadays due to internet and socializing with other cultures. Boys are having that "porn" behavior, and girls seem to like it. Boys are either brutal or girlish, and girls are dressing themselves as close to a prostitute as possible. It's very hard to keep balance between real life teaching and following everyday life. What my wife and me are focused is teaching our children every single minute by our example and not being afraid to ask about anything. Recently we had a talk about porn as well! They had noticed my behavior and my progress on being closer to them lately. I didn't say I was addicted but I said I had experienced urges to use it. They said they know boys watch it all the time, and my girls were protecting their brothers, by telling them what to see or not - what girls like and what they don't! Life is a constant race! We try to do our best to build healthy (by all meanings) children!
I think people are getting so disconnected from the real world, I mean from forming normal human social interactions and trust, that this sort of idea is becoming..."normal"? This is part of the issue with P as well, I think it causes a discontent between real, sensual love making between two people , and everything that is so fake about P. Over use of P causes your brain to think what you see in P is "normal", and what is reality of love making is seen as "boring" , and then people need to go to extremes to get "satisfaction" from their sexual relations. Remember the movie Don Jon? As much as I dislike the movie, I think his plight is pretty accurate for a lot of people out there.
