I know that almost everyone in this community enjoys listening to music. I enjoy that too, but I feel like I'm wasting so much time doing nothing but listening to music... I start imagining my dream life, but I never do something about making it become reality. I wasted about 2 years of my life listening to music every day for almost all day, and I think that I should stop for some time. This is just experimenting, I'm aware there are people who think that music is the best and it's important for creativity and motivation etc... But I want to make this experiment and after 30 days see if it worked. Anybody is welcomed to join me. Rules: -Easy mode-You are allowed to listen music while you're travelling, running, walking etc... You are also allowed to listen to music while you're doing something useful, for example cleaning your room or working out... -Normal mode-You are allowed to listen to music only on your way to work/school... -Hard mode- NO MUSIC AT ALL You don't need to update every day, but do it as often as you can. If you willingly start listening to music when you aren't allowed to, it's considered failure, and you need to start from day 0.
I'm sorry because you relapsed... You will get stronger after this. I'm glad that I won't be alone in this challenge. Good luck to you too!
I am still unclear why you think listening to music is harmful. Can you guys - @Dane17 and @Bluedition - please explain?
I'm not saying it's harmful, I'm just saying that I became an addict, and I'm probably not the only one. I was literally listening to music for whole day. And I find it okay if you're listening to music while doing something, but I wasted few hours a day just listening to music and doing literally nothing. I was imagining my dream life while listening, it was like mental masturbation. I'm pretty sure that it gave me a dopamine spike, just like PMO or sugar... I also enjoyed listening to classical musics. You can join us and be on easy mode, so you are allowed to listen to it while doing something useful.
Hmm. If you spent days on end gardening and doing nothing else, would that be an addiction? If you were an art lover, living in a capital city, and spent hours daily sitting and contemplating great artistry, would that be an addiction? Would either of these things be negative in any way? I concede that if your gardening, art gallery attendance or music listening means that you are not completing important tasks, then it is a time management issue and you need to prioritise. It just worries me that some talk about the dopamine demon, if you will. We get dopamine when we have our dinner, walk in the park, have a laugh with friends etc. As PMO addicts, we are fighting something very sinister and dark. This has become a huge problem in recent years because of high speed internet porn. So even teen boys have impotence or erectile dysfunction. As we recover from this, music listening, exercise, social inclusion and so on are to be encouraged. There is nothing sinister about dopamine per se. Indeed, e want back the dopamine receptors that we have sacrificed on the alter of high speed internet porn. Do you understand my concerns in raising this with you Dane? I'm not picking a fight.
I understand what are you talking about, but believe me, you cannot imagine how addicted I am to music. I am literally able to spend 6 hours laying on my bed while listening to music and fantasizing about my dream life. I also easily get bored from the music I am listening right now(after 2 days of listening to it I can't stand it anymore), and I constantly need to search for a new stuff. It's like porn addict searching for a new pornstar because he got bored from the current one. I agree with you that music can be great thing, but I really need to stop for some time, and to think about everything. I said that this is an experiment, I'm not sure if this is going to turn out right, but I hope it will. Like the guy from that video said, you won't be able to escape reality, which I was doing all the time. I need to be present more in my life, instead of only dreaming and imagining. It became a huge issue for me. When I am on my way to school while I'm listening to music, I literally do not notice anybody/anything, I don't even remember how I got to the school, because I am in my own world. I just need to get back to reality and escape imagination, music for me is like porn for high core porn addict...
I had your problem once, then i picked up a guitar rather than just listening..and spent all that wasted time learning.... I've made money from it, friends, life adventures... music's not the issue bro... potentially your motivation is? I mean that in a respectful manner
Thanks for the advice. At first I thought that music was motivating me, but now I realize that it was only motivating me to think about better life, but not to take action. Even when I'm working out, I don't think that music motivates me, it's more like it distracts me from my workout... It's hard to explain. I knew that there will be many users that won't like this NoMusic idea, but I also think that I'm not the only one in this community who has this problem. It's hard to understand if you haven't gotten through it yourself. Thank you!
Hi again Dane, I do actually understand what your saying. I'm not sure how old you are, but when i wasted away my days listening to records and CD's, i had this imagined life of basically being a rock star. Id spend hours and hours in my bus tucked away from life.... i didn't want to do anything else... life was passing me by. There is a saying from my favorite author, Jo Dispenza " you have the capacity to think greater than your circumstances" , and you are the architect of your reality, so if you want to change this... then its time to get a plan my friend.
I agree with you that I need a plan. I have gone through hard time last few months, depression and anxiety, but I am getting back on track. Already have few ideas that I can work on, I hope they will fulfill my life. You are right in every possible way. I can only say that I'm glad that I'm not the only one who's having this issue. Most people do not understand... You did a great job explaining it. Today was my day 1 in this challenge, and it wasn't particularly hard. And I feel like I was more productive.
I consider this to be one of the most ridiculous statements I have ever read on the subject. You talk about music "back in the old days". Well, back in my old days (I was born in 1965), I never listened to music round the camp fire! I never had music on as "part of a group and bonding and becoming closer with the group". I listened to music on my own as a teen. I moved away from home at 20, lived alone and continued listening to music as a solitary activity. Furthermore, I have not downloaded one single piece of music. I have 1,500 CDs. Everything I listen to I physically own a copy of. It has got bugger all to do with my survival. It is simply something that has brought me a great deal of pleasure over the years.
Day 2 I had some temptations to listen music, especially when I got notified that Krewella released a new song, but I won't do it. I'm doing this hard mode, which means no music at all. It seems like today was longer day that the usual for me. It's probably because I've been more present and time runs slower when you aren't in your imagined world.
Day 3 I got notified about few new song releases, and I had desire to click on them, but I was strong enough not to do that.
Day 0 Yesterday was awful day for me. I haven't done anything useful, so in the evening, I told myself "Why not listen to some music?" And i ended up listening to it for more than 2 hours straight... It felt better than when I was listening to it every day, I got some chills, but I still want to stop for at least 1 month.
This seems like an interesting challenge! Count me in even though I don't care too much about music because I only listen to it couple times a month
Day 0 I'm going to try this. The funny/ironic thing is, for me personally, that around the same time I started watching porn was the same time I started listening to a ton of trashy music. I've listened to a bunch of garbage since (lyrics containing references to sex,drugs,etc) so I'm going to try to complete the 30 days on Hard Mode.
I don't listen to music all the day as you do. I like it and i see no problem of listening to my favorite songs as i don't do it all the time. Personally, i have no need to stop, but i wish you good luck