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TeJayy Public Oct 22, 2017

I have some honest questions:

What is there to do with a wife other than have sex? I mean, yes she'll have my kids and help me start & raise a family, but that's still somewhat sex-related. And other than cuddling/physical intimacy too?

I ask because the main thing & almost the only thing I think of when it comes to women are what they can do sexually for me. If I find a woman even slightly attractive, I struggle trying to percieve her as a friend without the potiential or possiblility that I may do something sexual with her or just viewing her non-sexually as a normal person. I blame the porn & my past experiences for me not really being able to imagine anything non-sexual related, but I want new thoughts to replace all these sexual immoral ones regarding women.

What benefit comes from having a girlfriend with no sex?

What benefits come from having a female friend with no sex or anything sexual?

And no I don't have any biological sisters...

And I respectfully ask that please noone tell me "don't look for/expect any benefits" or some mess like that. Because I'm being realistic here and I have dopamine re-wiring in mind too when I ask for personal benefits regarding women in my questions.

Please and honestly, thank you very much.

Gav5

A marriage is a partnership. The family is the most basic unit expressing love. Through Man and Woman new life emerges.. it is a vision of the Godhead.

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Gav5

Love is not truly love until it expresses itself outward. Before the world was Father Son and Holy Ghost existed as a triune partnership with love flowing between them.

Gav5

I will use this analogy (not mine).. a man fishing was asked why he was. He responded "because I love fish". If you truly loved fish you would not kill and eat it... it is better to say you love the feeling fish gives you.

Gav5

In a similar way love of self is not truly love. This is how porn and masturbation (self love) has skewed out outlook on relationships. God has called us to a better way.

Gav5

God expressed his love towards us before we entered into this world and sent His Son so we can be reconciled to Himself.

Gav5

A wife is more than a sexual partner.. or a reproductive ally. She is a friend and companion and a help... as you get older your views on companionship will change.

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Gav5

Having said that you seem to pose these questions on the premise that all men are destined to be married and this is neither reality in the world nor what is taught in scriptures.

Gav5

Ask God to guide you and to provide you with the wisdom to make the correct choices. Also the Bible is very clear on sexual acts prior to marriage being a sin against the LORD as such you should never aspire to such things.

Gav5

We are meant to bond deeply with one woman... till death parted. Anyone defending another position is convected both by the scriptures and the lack of their own happiness.

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Gav5

God bless and keep you. Goodnight.

seraphim64

Well as coming from a man who lost his wife due to P use and infidelity, I can tell you what I miss about my wife other than the regular sex.

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TeJayy

@Gav5 I have no premise that all men are destined to be married...I'd be surprised if anybody believed that. I'm already doing what you've suggested, I'm just looking for answers to my questions.

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