If you could erase bad memories, would you do it?

Well at first i would say yes but now that i have thought about it more i would choose the opposite.These memories were bad indeed there is no question about it but they taught you something because out of these moments came experience and a way to deal with things like these.They somehow made you a better person.There are many things in my life that were bad and people who treated me like shit but i thank them for all these.Why?Because they made me a better person by wanting to become the exact opposite and to do the exact opposite.

In the past i always blamed the people who treated me like crap and wanted to find a way to forget all those bad memories.But these moments in life gave me experience.The right thing is to make peace with them.What happened in the past should stay in the past.Accept that everything that happened was not your fault and learn from these things.Even if it was your fault then learn from them and become a better person.

That is what i think is right but everyone has different opinions about what is right

 

The Truth .

Pain Builds You

 

No. These memories made you and build your character.

 

No. We have to analyse our mistakes and learn from them. Bad moments remind us why we are fighting, bad moments keep us going. If we had no bad moments, we would not masturbate our strength away, every day.

 

Making mistakes is apart of life if could always erase them we would never grow as a person I think pain builds character like we become a better person through it

 

Can I erase the actual porn from my head, but keep the "Porn perverts reality and screwed up my brain. Don't do porn." thought/memory?

 

Yes.

As time passes with no pmo the compulsiveness of this addiction will diminish and you'll have less and less unwanted thoughts.

It's up to you to remember the lessons learned, however. How to do it? Will you be like Moses, climbing down from Mount Sinai with his tablets of stone with "Porn is Evil" etched as the first commandment? Or like a Buddist, repeating a "porn bad" mantra?

You can forget. It's really all up to you.

Good luck and God bless!!!

EDIT: Clarification: I can conjure up old memories...if i choose. But they don't often come unbidden.

 

Porn and masturbating, I hate them so much, but they were the reason in my changing. They were a sign for me telling me to stop being lazy and to change. I always was lazy to do things and I wasn't even thinking about changing my life, but this addition showed me how I can change and be different from all people.

 

A hypothetical question but imagine someday we can with science erase certain memories. Would you lose character traits? Could there be some sort of memory implantation therapy where by implanting sequential memories we could gain characteristics?

 

I wouldn't want to erase the things that hurt me ... but I wish I could erase the things I did that hurt other people.

 

How kind.....

 

Sorry, I think that came out wrong. What I meant was I wish I could have their memories erased of the situations where I hurt them. I guess I was less thinking about the 'erasing memory' thing, and more about what I wish I could take back, or do-over.

 

No because only the present moment is where reality can truly be found. Memories are just ghosts haunting me until I open up the gift of the present. And this thread is just a manifestation of wishful thinking I really wasn't gonna waste my damn time with a question like this but I saw sparky's name and jumped in.

 

That's all she wrote.

 

As a porn addict, I hurt all kinds of people. I hurt any of the women who felt pressure to get into that industry by being a loyal customer/viewer. I hurt the girls who get kidnapped and sold into sex trafficking rings, because I'm living proof that there's a huge demand for porn.

I hurt women I was in real relationships with because I was keeping my porn addiction a secret from them, and never let them get to know the real me. I hurt women when I'd break up with them in pursuit of someone hotter/hornier/bustier/etc, because porn had set such unrealistic standards in my head.

I hurt employers by never being able to work to my full potential because I was constantly distracted with porn or personal ads on my phone, or obsessively sexting a partner (or two or three) instead of working at the job I was hired for.

As my addiction progressed and I started having casual sex, I hurt the unsuspecting husbands of the many wives who were willing to take me to bed.

And most of all, I shattered the heart of the best human being I know--someone who remained committed to me for nearly six years, despite my repeated infidelity. The betrayal and emotional stress were so heavy on her that she currently suffers from symptoms of PTSD. All she ever wanted to be was a mom--but because my addiction made sex such an emotionally-heavy issue in our marriage, we just stopped having sex. We divorced, and she turns 40 this December. Her window of time is closing--and if she never gets her dream of being pregnant and having her own child, I will be largely to blame.

I wish I could say I've only hurt myself.

The only way I know how to make amends to all of these people is to stay committed to my recovery.

 

Very brave of you to write this.