That could be for your area, I tried it for my area but there was very little to nothing happening. There are other ways to meet friends and also women ofc, I have done it many times before. But with that being said it is very hard, maybe also depending in culture ofc. I would say I spend 95% of my freetime alone at the moment.
Yes, in my area there are a lot of meetup.com meetings so I'm lucky in that area. I have heard in other places it's not as popular. Keep out there and somebody will come your way soon.
I will give it a try again also join a local club for one of my resting hobbies in hope of bringing it back to life and get some inspiration!
Firstly, you need a reason for a friend to stay by your side.... Beliefs, hobbies, shared experiences and personalities
Thanks for the reply, but I was looking for ideas of where to socialize. An obvious choice would be to go to a bar, but I don't find lasting friendships there. Tell us where you go to find friends, that would be interesting. - Thanks.
Thanks for mentioning volunteer work, that's something I have done, but have not pursued it often enough and with consistency. FYI - I loved my camera, still do, but not using it as much. I stopped when I realized that I needed to categorize my over 3500 pictures and that seemed overwhelming. I should go through the pics and do something with the best of pictures, I do have some great ones...in my humble opinion lol.
Hopefully you will rebuild your friendships by adding new friends. I have a lot of close friends, but they date back to middle school and I moved while they all stayed in my old home-town. Anyways, don't give up and maybe try to have a fun challenge to add a few friends to your contact list.
Agreed, and I think we all have some reasons that people would want to stay by our side. My understanding is a friendship develops by the amount of time you spend with someone. That's why it was easy to meet friends at work and school. My challenge is to do something outside of the hobbies and experiences with the people I meet in order to build the required time to make the friendship meaningful.
True friends are hard to find bro. You just don’t meet guys somewhere and instantly find genuine true and lifelong friends. It just doesn’t work that way.
I am not sure. But in my culture we are not that open unless there is alcohol involved so it's not that easy to get to know new people just by starting to talk to them. That is usually considered strange and god forbid you do it to a woman that is not interested in you as a boyfriend.. Yeah I am a little bit bitter but I am constantly working on trying not to
Anyways summers are the worst, even if winter is pitch dark and extremely hard from a depression-perspective summers is always worst for me. Sitting alone or inside while people go with their friends or families to different things or just sit outside and talk. These months are suppose to be the best of the year but when you are lonely that's not always so. Which part of the year is hardest for you?
Somewhere I read it takes 200-hours of being with someone to become close friends. At first I thought that was way too much time, but then I remembered in middle school and at work I would spend that amount of time with someone in only 5-weeks. FYI - I meet most of my life long friends in middle school and at work.
I would say summer time would be the worst time to feel lonely, but I'm not as lonely in the summer as I am in the winter. I think the reason I'm not as lonely in the summer is because I do more. I have the nice weather and I'm motivated to get out of the house. Even if I'm alone, going out makes me forget the lonely feeling. I think staying active is a good way to avoid porn, loneliness, and a host of other negative emotions.
You still can feel lonely around friends. I have a group of friends since childhood, we still meet but i leave feeling bad. Its strange.
One way to make friends is to go to an event for a really niche hobby that you're interested in. A downside is that the friends may live far away from you. Are you sure they're good friends? I was in a similar group but had to leave because things got too toxic. But it's possible your friends are fine.
They are good guys, cant complain. ts just in combination things start getting difficult... how many years did you need to leave?
I left them about seven or eight years ago. Some bad signs to watch out for (or "red flags") include a lot of pointless envy / jealousy going on, people in the group getting much more or much less respect depending on how their life appears to be going, feeling uneasy before meeting up with them, a constant need for people in the group to start talking to other people outside the group rather than just having a chat within the group, and so on and so forth. Do some research on the subject of psychological narcissism. But yeah, this might not apply to your group. But maybe there are other difficulties such as just having less and less in common with them or something. Nowadays I'm much more reluctant to get too involved with a group lol. But it's kind of a matter of identity. If you keep your individual identity strong, you (hopefully) won't get too mixed up in some unhealthy group identity. Oh yeah and watch out for if a particular member seems to be becoming the "leader" of the group (and in an often unpleasant way). Equality is best! In fact, toxic people don't really do equality.
It's not so much that you are having the problem, it's just the way it is after college. Most people are focused on creating a family, and so they have to give serious blood at the job. If you are smart, family or not, while you are young and have energy, you should do the same.