How important is penis size?

More important is how you use it. Imagine yourself above your woman, shaking nervously and thinking if your penis is sufficient(even if it'd be above average). Would you pleasure her?

For me most important is foreplay, kissing and holding tension, not just fucking to fuck and that's everything...

 

Well everything is good if average. It really depends on the girl on their body... But don't worry you have fingers, a tongue. Sex is not only with your penis!

 

I saw a TED talk one time where they said women pay attention to flaccid penis size and not erect size. I thought that was odd. Anyway, women get orgasms from clitoral stimulation over 90% of the time. I think that what's more important than size is how well it fits that particular vagina. If you are too long (common problem) you will hit their cervix. You don't want to be doing that.

 

@Insanezombieman

As you know, never in this history of man, has such a topic caused such insecurity for so many. Which is hilarious, as it's completely unnecessary. Studies show that 85% of women are happy with their partners penis size, while only 55% of men are happy their own.

As a few others have pointed out, we men have been conditioned (by society, by the media, by the porn industry) to assume that penetration is where the good stuff happens. In our world of 'bigger is better', we've somehow translated that to the bedroom, where bigger equipment must make for better sex. It just doesn't hold as much weight as you think it does.

Rather, sex is an all encompassing experience, that involves foreplay, touching, stimulation, anticipation and a million other factors that involve all parts of the body to create an overall amazing experience. When asked if a woman prefers an above-average sized penis with an unskilled user, or a below-averaged size penis with a guy who knows how to satisfy, then skill beats size every single time.

But at the end of the day. this is simply much of a bigger deal to men than it is to women. Instead of focusing on your size, focus on how best to satisfy on every level. Sex is so much more than penetration - and you're missing out on the incredible satisfaction of true and deep intimacy by reducing it to such. You've got nothing to worry about!

 

Yeah, it can also cause real damage and infections.

Hero one has got it right. Women don't care about this much. Men and women see sex quite differantly. Ever read a sex scene in a book that was written by a man vs a woman? Men are like "and the they had sex". Sometimes male authors will be a bit more descriptive such as "and then they had sex in the shower and it was good". A sex scene written by a woman is like an entire chapter and most of it is the build up to the sex. Rarely is pens size even mentioned in all of that.

 

I read somewhere that the human vagina is never longer than 6 inches deep at most. So it is not only completely unecessary to be longer than that, but it will actually not even fit all the way.

Being good at sex is 99% skill

 

Great Discussion

 

I was paranoid for years about this. Conclusion, I wasted time worrying!!
I'm 4.5 inches erect and still give my fiancée great orgasms. Sex is about emotions more than size. I'm limited I know, but I make it work.
Summary, don't sweat it. You can't change it so why worry?? I missed out on soooo much pussy when I was younger because of worrying about it

 

Well look at it this way herby. Your fiance is glad you missed out on all that

 

Funny how things work out

 

@herby4321

A great example of how your confidence and focusing on the right aspects of sex makes for a wholly satisfying experience for you and your partner. Thanks for sharing.

 

Cheers man

 

Man it doesn't matter if you have a small or a big penis, I think is more important to have an erect penis. My case ------- but it doesn't matter 'cause I can't even date a girl... so definitely is more important your attitude.

 

I am a woman and endorse the answers to this thread wholeheartedly

Size does not matter and in my limited experience they are all roughly the same when erect anyway. I have also read that a woman's vagina is only 4 inches long so that is plenty and as Ryan mentioned hitting the cervix is very painful and can even cause bleeding and nausea. In fact many porn stars report major damage from rough sex with overly endowed men which is why most of them are on painkillers constantly. Porn sex just is not good sex...at least not for women.

Learning the female anatomy and getting good at techniques for stimulating the clitoris are way more important since 70% of women cannot orgasm through penetration.

 

LOL ahahahhahaaha, the idea about the penis size is a nonsense we should care more about attitude

 

For the longest time, I felt insecure about my size because I'm average and when your only frame of reference is porn, well... let's just say it's easy to feel small and inadequate.

But you know what? I refuse to live like that. I'm average. So what? There will always be guys who are taller, more handsome, more intelligent, with bigger dong, etc... Always comparing ourselves with others is unhealthy, man. It's the same thing for women.

The question we should ask ourselves is: what do I have to offer to my partner? Sex is more than penis size, how long you can pound that pussy and how big is your load. Porn is terrible, because it has destroyed our idea of sex. No wonder so many men and women are insecure.

 

Think about lesbians. THey both have vaginas. Most lesbians are happy. Do they have penises? No.

 

No, penis size does not matter. I think the porn industry has damaged what men and women both think the man's penis should look like just like it's damaged what we all think the average woman should look like. The average man does not have a 9incher with a girth to match and that is OKAY. That is NORMAL.

NEWSFLASH. Our vagina's are not bottomless pits. Too big, too long freaking hurts.

I think another common misconception is that foreplay for women is all about emotions. It's not. There will be (if done properly) a physical response of swelling both inside and outside the vagina caused by increased blood flow that will make the puzzle pieces fit together a little better BUT most people of both sexes don't even realize that because they don't take the time for proper foreplay, or foreplay at all.