Found out my mom is cheating. What do I do?

And she will take more precautions from now on, good point

 

Looks like he need to work like Sherlock Cumberbatch!

 

His dad shouldn’t find out about it through him. Instead, his mum should take responsibility for her own actions, and either try to salvage what little trust remains (which would be wiped out if his dad found out through him) or break it off. His mum needs to be the responsible adult here and he should remind her about that.

 

Or he can go double agent and join team-mom.... So he can freely ask her who's H guy while promising her to keep it a secret..."c'mon I won't tell dad!"

 

Well I mean, if we really are gonna consider playing a mind game here, you can just:

1. Ask to use her phone under a pretext you determine suitable.
2. Obtain H's number.
3. Check for H's identity online. (You may have to pay $5 or so if you want a reputable scan but depending on where you live, this could be free or illegal)
4. (i) Determine possible links between H and your mother and understand their relation.
OR
4. (ii) Confront mom about H without telling him what you know; only what you suspect. Do not mention H, I, J, K or any other alphabet; only her behaviour. Note her reply. Now spill all the details and note her reaction.
5. Be a good boy and do good to your parents; tell dad about your suspicions, reveal H's identity to him and let mom and dad figure out what's up.

 

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Oh I like that

 

Well, he always could, but idk what this would accomplish. I know it’s his parents and all, but even children don’t have authority in their parents’ relationship. It should be left solely between the two of them.

If his mum admits to cheating and is unrepentant about it, then that’s another story where I would find a method like this to be more moral.

 

You don't know, you are just assuming things. There could be a different explanation. And anyway aren't you being a hypocrite here? After all, you're a porn addict. Even if she is cheating you're no better than her, you're cheating on your girlfriend by looking at porn. How ya gonna respond if she fires back at you 'well you're porn addict'? How could you possibly defend yourself?

I think a family member looks at porn but am I going to confront them? Absolutely not! It would hypocrisy to do so.

 

Family means family.

I very much doubt the hide and seek going on rn constitutes a better living atmosphere than what revealing the truth will bring.

Clarity is necessary for purpose, and purpose in turn leads to action

 

I'd try to get some more info before you do anything. Either get hold of her phone, or get up early again or something. If you are confident she is cheating, confront her, maybe even while she is on the phone with him. Her reaction will probably give it away

 

Very good point my bro.

I think that ONLY if the OP's genuine answer to this is something like "At least I'm working on fixing in day in and day out" should he proceed to act along via the path of involvement.

 

Man, that's like saying that you won't inform the police about an assassination you witnessed because you kill rats and squirrels with an airgun

 

imo actively cheating on your husband is much worse than pmo

 

I think the SO would disagree with you. Looking at porn is cheating.

If that's the case then why are families falling apart due to porn addiction? Porn is no joke!

 

i dont know whether i am right or wrong.........but we should avoid getting involved in matter regarding our parents.........first you should try to investigate the reality............sometimes our own suspicions misguide us........
there is an app for recording call ........if your mother is not tech savvy...........then install that app on her phone.............and later listen that recording...........
but dont assume things .......

 

LOL as much as i would love to see that unfold, i think it's a recipe for disaster

 

I've never heard of locking a door to talk to a pen pal.

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