Hi all, First of all let me tell you a bit about myself and my masturbation/PE journey so far. I'm 24 years old male, i started masturbating since 13 i think and when i discovered it i did it very often like 3-4 times a day without porn (i didnt have internet at that time). I masturbated every time i felt like it, even if my mom was in the other room and if i felt like i'm gonna get caught i just rushed into it and finished asap ( this didn't happend very often but it did). At 15 or 16 i had acces to internet and porn but i didnt masturbate extremely often, i think once a day was it. When i lost my virginity i lasted 4 seconds..not even kidding. I found out that i can receive a blowjob for 20 minutes and i can handle it and enjoy it but when it comes to penis in vagina..my brain? or penis? just goes OMFGOMFGOMFG and BAM i'm done. Years went by , had girlfriends ..my longest relationship was 3 years. In those 3 years i went from lasting 2-3 minutes in bed to maybe 4-5..that was my top..i was lucky that somehow my girlfriend could only have orgasm if she grinded on my dick in cowgirl and for some reason i could handle that position for as long as i wanted. After we broke up i was a mess.. i masturbated like 3-4 times a day again for the next year or so..after i got myself up and felt better , the next time i had sex i lasted 2 seconds after my penis touched her vagina.. literally 2 seconds and thats when i started thinking that maybe the frequent masturbation has something to do with it. Now i'm 2 weeks in my hard mode Nofap journey. Any ideas on how to deal with my problem other than Nofap? and do you guys think nofap will help me? it feels like its all from the brain but i'm not sure since i can last a lot if i get a blowjob but if my penis touches a vagina it just explodes. Edit: forgot to mention that my masturbatig sessions were 2-3 minutes long every time.. and some times happend to kinda loose the erection mid session and as i soon as i got it back i came and this happend quite frequently
Interesting...many men have difficulty finishing inside a vagina due to being too used to masturbation. But at least you have no trouble there.
Hi Cldfwt just read your story and it is so similar to my situation well apart from the bj part. I also joined the nofap for the same reason the PE ,hope this beats it.
Hi guys, I want to give an update so other people with the same problem as mine could benefit. Long story short, if you have PE problems, just quit porn, dont quit masturbating. I quit both porn and masturbating for 2 weeks and after that i got highly sensitive and my PE got even worse but this helped me find out why i got PE in the first place. I found out that my penis is highly sensitive below the glans and thats why i only had problems with PIV and not with blowjobs. That and the fact that i was masturbating to porn and my PC muscle was allways tense. Solution: I only quit porn, i masturbated every day or every other day, and I was touching that sensitive area a lot so it will get used to touching. Now i can last 15-20 minutes if I want to.
I gotta say i'm not keen on this idea. I've had pretty much exactly the same experience as Cldftw here and I may go back to masturbating one day. But I've found in the past that even if i think i'm free of the porn addiction then i quickly go back to it if i am masturbating regularly, and the whole wretched cycle starts again. Does anyone have any advice for Cldftw and me that doesn't involve regularly jerking off? Because that just seems like a bad idea that can lead back to bad habits.
I too seem to get PE only with porn or too much sexual thought. I havent had vaginal sex so I cannot tell how will I behave then. But yes, Masturbation without porn seems to cure the PE for me. And yes you are right, masturbation is a slippery slope that leads to porn and all. You got to remember one thing. Too much of everything is bad and some things are inherently bad no matter how little. Porn is bad no matter the quantity. That what is not natural is bad. Porn is not natural. The thing with porn is that it is difficult to keep it in control. Similarly I feel not masturbating for extended periods is also bad unless you are masturbating like crazy 4 times a day and wasting your life because of it. Masturbating is natural and you should be able to control it within healthy limits while relaxing yourself. Masturbating should be cultivated as a positive habit and should not be connected with the negative habit of excessive porn watching. It should be about enjoying yourself and knowing your body and nothing else. You can read my story on my post.- https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/please-help-premature-ejaculation.166480/#post-1447082
Stop watching porn forever, and masturbate when you feel the urge but not more than 2-3 times a week. If i go 10-15 days without it the problem seems to escalate pretty badly. Literally all my relapses on my nofap journey had been without any physical stimulation. So i’d say dont do it regularly but dont give up either, keep it in moderation.
I went to my urologist for PE. He suggested that I jerk off one hour before sex. Then during sex, give the girl orgasms first so she won’t be disappointed then my penis enter her vagina slowly Then do it normally. It helped a lot!
Hi guys. I am kinda struggling with PE myself. That was in a time when i smoked, was eating very badly, lots of cofee, porn, masturbation,etc. I have quit all those habits. I haven't had sex in a while, but i think that PE is still there. It seems to me like you guys are searching for crutches in this problem. I am kinda thinking of training myself, using some exercises, i don't know...I was reading on this forum about penis stretches. There are also some success stories about it. I kinda have some questions : did quitting PMO helped in the long run with PE? I am not interested if i come in 10 sec the first time after some months of hard mode. I am in this for the long run.
De-sensitize your penis is the only way. First time, of course it will be 10 seconds inside her. 2nd time, try to make it 20 seconds. Try to make it longer and also be sure to rest your penis in her vagina to get used to it. It helped me
I have a problem with premature ejaculation. But only when I use Porn. It’s like I’ve trained myself to cum quickly with porn, but without Porn I last a lot longer. When using Porn I approach orgasm pretty quickly... But when using just my imagination (not porn related) it’s like I’m in full control.
You seem to fly right past the stages preceding orgasm, am I right? Edging, and riding the plateau stage for a long time isn't what you have mastered through your life? Well, then you're absolutely right about blaming it on fapping too many times daily. It's like taking a scenic drive but never observing and appreciating the scenery. Going through the 3-month NoFap reboot will help you immensely. Perhaps your sexual life will move on to another dimension afterward. I would save all sexual expression with a lover and terminate all porn and/or fantasy fapping. And with a lover, deemphasize intercourse and concentrate on foreplay, tenderness, and affection. She would love it! The passion play would be marvelous.
I think it’s because Porn is a super stimulus. It releases way more dopamine in the brain than just using your imagination. The more excited you are. The quicker you orgasm.
I could not agree more on this. Deemphasize intercourse, and concentrate on foreplay, tenderness and affection.. and without realizing it you will have s great s*x session. Your penis will stay hard and would be able to have vaginal sex and stay longer without PE. This is my own personal experience. I had both ED and PE. Have been in PMO journey for 221 days and still going.