Started NoFap hoping to cure my PE

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Your story sounds familiar to me...

 

Interesting...many men have difficulty finishing inside a vagina due to being too used to masturbation. But at least you have no trouble there.

 

Hi Cldfwt just read your story and it is so similar to my situation well apart from the bj part. I also joined the nofap for the same reason the PE ,hope this beats it.

 

If you are on nofap for PE, please share your experiences.

 

Great update. keep us informed about any other progress you have.

 

I gotta say i'm not keen on this idea.
I've had pretty much exactly the same experience as Cldftw here and I may go back to masturbating one day. But I've found in the past that even if i think i'm free of the porn addiction then i quickly go back to it if i am masturbating regularly, and the whole wretched cycle starts again. Does anyone have any advice for Cldftw and me that doesn't involve regularly jerking off? Because that just seems like a bad idea that can lead back to bad habits.

 

I too seem to get PE only with porn or too much sexual thought. I havent had vaginal sex so I cannot tell how will I behave then. But yes, Masturbation without porn seems to cure the PE for me. And yes you are right, masturbation is a slippery slope that leads to porn and all.
You got to remember one thing. Too much of everything is bad and some things are inherently bad no matter how little. Porn is bad no matter the quantity. That what is not natural is bad. Porn is not natural. The thing with porn is that it is difficult to keep it in control.
Similarly I feel not masturbating for extended periods is also bad unless you are masturbating like crazy 4 times a day and wasting your life because of it. Masturbating is natural and you should be able to control it within healthy limits while relaxing yourself. Masturbating should be cultivated as a positive habit and should not be connected with the negative habit of excessive porn watching. It should be about enjoying yourself and knowing your body and nothing else.

You can read my story on my post.- https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/please-help-premature-ejaculation.166480/#post-1447082

 

Stop watching porn forever, and masturbate when you feel the urge but not more than 2-3 times a week. If i go 10-15 days without it the problem seems to escalate pretty badly. Literally all my relapses on my nofap journey had been without any physical stimulation. So i’d say dont do it regularly but dont give up either, keep it in moderation.

 

I went to my urologist for PE. He suggested that I jerk off one hour before sex. Then during sex, give the girl orgasms first so she won’t be disappointed then my penis enter her vagina slowly Then do it normally. It helped a lot!

 

Hi guys. I am kinda struggling with PE myself. That was in a time when i smoked, was eating very badly, lots of cofee, porn, masturbation,etc. I have quit all those habits. I haven't had sex in a while, but i think that PE is still there. It seems to me like you guys are searching for crutches in this problem. I am kinda thinking of training myself, using some exercises, i don't know...I was reading on this forum about penis stretches. There are also some success stories about it. I kinda have some questions : did quitting PMO helped in the long run with PE? I am not interested if i come in 10 sec the first time after some months of hard mode. I am in this for the long run.

 

De-sensitize your penis is the only way.

First time, of course it will be 10 seconds inside her. 2nd time, try to make it 20 seconds. Try to make it longer and also be sure to rest your penis in her vagina to get used to it.

It helped me

 

I have a problem with premature ejaculation. But only when I use Porn. It’s like I’ve trained myself to cum quickly with porn, but without Porn I last a lot longer.

When using Porn I approach orgasm pretty quickly... But when using just my imagination (not porn related) it’s like I’m in full control.

 

You seem to fly right past the stages preceding orgasm, am I right? Edging, and riding the plateau stage for a long time isn't what you have mastered through your life? Well, then you're absolutely right about blaming it on fapping too many times daily. It's like taking a scenic drive but never observing and appreciating the scenery. Going through the 3-month NoFap reboot will help you immensely. Perhaps your sexual life will move on to another dimension afterward. I would save all sexual expression with a lover and terminate all porn and/or fantasy fapping. And with a lover, deemphasize intercourse and concentrate on foreplay, tenderness, and affection. She would love it! The passion play would be marvelous.

 

This is good advice!

 

I have the same problem! I never heard of this before, and it is very new for me. Any ideas?

 

I think it’s because Porn is a super stimulus. It releases way more dopamine in the brain than just using your imagination. The more excited you are. The quicker you orgasm.

 

I could not agree more on this. Deemphasize intercourse, and concentrate on foreplay, tenderness and affection.. and without realizing it you will have s great s*x session. Your penis will stay hard and would be able to have vaginal sex and stay longer without PE. This is my own personal experience.

I had both ED and PE. Have been in PMO journey for 221 days and still going.

 

Do you consider your PE to be cured? If so, when did you notice the difference ?