If you have read this in it's entirety, none of what you are saying makes sense. Especially this!^ Please tell me what I have not been honest about?
You have skirted around 'honesty' by underplaying a 'platonic friendship.' With my platonic friendships, I say... hey bro you wanna go out for some beers tonight.' If my mate turns around and says. 'nah I'm watching the footy.' I'd nod my head and say OK and go about my business. I wouldn't start an entire thread on nofap about 'lonliness.' So it is evident to me you know NOTHING about honesty or you prefer such personal matters to be left out of public viewing. Which is fair enough. Look we're here because we seek improvement. Improvement comes with acknowledging our flaws and accepting the possibility to remedy these flaws. Do you want to leave this earth without ever knowing what it feels like to be needed, appreciated... loved. At the moment you are a ghost, always on the precipice, watching but never feeling, never knowing what it is like to have companionship. Accept this and you make changes to overcome this. Otherwise carry on being a ghost.
You appear to say that if my platonic friendships do not look like and function like yours, that I am dishonest. What! Furthermore, you say, "I wouldn't start an entire thread on NoFap about 'lonliness.'" Again, I point out that I am not you! Choosing to open up honestly about my feelings and the impact of a significant instant in my life is my choice, alright? I agree. I have acknowledged my flaws in this thread and explained why my efforts to remedy them have been difficult.
Sometimes we all need to agree to disagree and leave it at that. Please stay on topic and be respectful to those in and out of this thread. Thank you.
I will not 'leave it at that'! @tweeby is poison and I will not have him spewing it here on my thread. Is that understood?
I was reading through what tweeby said and your responses and I thought that your responses were validating your OP and actually allowing you to be more vulnerable and open. Other than tweeby being rude and condescending we do encourage other peoples' opinions and I thought you were doing awesome at analyzing your feelings and where you were coming from compared to your OP. My comment about agreeing to disagree may have been a little to strong and I apologize for that. I want you to know that I am removing myself from the decision process regarding you and tweeby. I don't want you to feel that I am biased in any way. Given what I just mentioned, I was hoping to keep your thread on track from here on out. I apologize for failing in this instance. Stay strong Igy!. You are doing a great job!
Thank you. Yes, I was trying in face of the blanket, "your lying", position of my antagonist. But the cost to me internally is truly formidable. I have improved at dealing with unjustified criticism and vexatious interactions from my haters, on the one hand. On the other hand, it exacerbates my maladaptive schemas and produces profound distress. @tweeby knows this! I was surprised to read this decision and your apology. I neither expected nor required you to cease moderating this thread. But thanks for what you tried to do and for your encouragement to stay strong. I shall endeavour to do so. Regards, IGY.
I read this whole exchange between u and tweeby a few mins ago.. Igy, your genuine interest to help others drew me toward u... I hope tweeby realises and learns frm u tat genuine help comes not frm a place of arrogance and feeling of - I knw u better than yourself pal! Bt it comes from relating, understanding and using kind words...
Word, man. Here I was thinking that if anyone had it all figured out it was the mighty @IGY. I'm more of a Bob Dylan type because I get bitter, but I feel you.
I cannot be precise when my (former) best friend and I first met, but I estimate 7 or 8 years ago. We were really close. But I have found myself rejected time and time and time again. It is devastating to end this friendship (I only have two with people that live here in my city). I feel that I have been taken for granted and it has left me feeling completely lonely and hollowed out as if all the insides of my body have been scraped out. I am just posting this as I am likely to be withdrawn. There was no argument and no unpleasantness, just an invalidating environment created by him, resulting in rejection.
I am sorry to hear that... all I can tell you is that your online friends are here for you. Of course this doesn't replace someone who lives in your city and who you can meet in person. This sounds terrible...