Hi Everyone, I have 23 years old,student in a new city and VIRGIN. I'm currently on 26 days without PM(O) and NoVideoGames. The majority of my life in past was on the virtual world, that's because I have never had love affairs with girls and didn't had many real friends. I work on that, but the progress isn't significative. I talk to people for a little bit of time, but not developp reals relationships. Help! So, I would ask the NoFap community about what I should do: lose my virginity with a girl (I'm little bit shy) or break my PMO record? P.s: Sorry for my English, I'm French.
Hello mate, I think you are thinking too much on losing your virginity. When it happen, it happens. Keep up with doing NoFap and you will see a lot of progress during the reboot. Don't break your record.
Depends how you want to lose your virginity. If it matters that it has to be with a girlfriend then do it. But if you are tired of waiting for a girlfriend you can try to have casual sex with someone you meet on a bar or by paying for it. There is nothing wrong by consuming prostitution.
Hey, I agree with jorg78. Finding a girl who you can fall in love with should be your first priority right now, BEFORE thinking about sex. Now I don’t know this from experience, so this is all just my belief when I say that when you fall in love with the right person, you won’t have to worry about overcoming shyness or losing your virginity. Don’t give weight to your desires. There’s a lot more to a relationship than just sex, remember that.
I'm 23 too, and I'm in the exact same situation as you lol. (It's weird how many of us on this forum have the exact same problems). I think you should hold on to NoFap until you meet a girl you like and then you can do it with her. (it's what I''m trying to do at least lol). Its NoFap not permanent celibacy
Last night, I did a dream than I was playing in my last video game. I did 1 hour of sport and I took a cold shower and I have yet the desire to play.
Hi, I'm going on 26 and I'm still a virgin. It is tough because I too have buried myself in video games and only have 1 really good friend. I think you should break your no PMO record. I hope to beat mine! I would say it depends on your thought process on when and how you want to lose your virginity. If you want to lose it to someone special and who you care about or just casually someplace. Some relationships may take a while to blossom as they do not happen instantaneously.
I think you should learn to enjoy your own company, and start to include others into it. It doesn't sound like you need a romantic relationship, it sounds like you need to get out of the house and spend time with friends. You need to look into groups and activities PURELY to enjoy yourself, and meet people through your enjoyment. Friendships develop best that way, and from friendships relationships develop. Trying to focus on romantic relationships is a backwards method and you are going to focus too hard on that without developing your own structure for enjoying life, as yourself, by yourself. Also, women are people, and they want friends too. I would recommend start slow, look into one hobby or interest, one group, that piques your interest, go to a meeting or two. If you don't like it, you still have a new experience, a real, physical experience.
Yes, i do that since a period of time. 53 days NoVideosgames and 11 days PMO, tonight i went in club with a friend.
Unless you went to the club to dance, the only purpose is to drink and meet women. I'd recommend that's not really learning to love spending time with yourself, or developing new hobbies with friends.
As someone who lost their virginity to someone I didn't really like as a friend, and with a lot of other baggage attached, I'm going to vote in favour of keeping your streak. Give yourself an awesome streak, work on yourself and your weak points, and, if your read people's success stories, all sorts of awesome things can happen. It's right to be sceptical, but you owe yourself the chance to at least explore how long you can go. You've got this.