I want to hear your reasons - why did you join this community? What caused this move (what turned tide) and what was the biggest change you have noticed after joining NoFap? Honestly, I joined this, because I wanted to gain respect in other people eyes and get girls. After some months and ups and downs, I changed my goal, and it's now being the best version of myself as a man. Acne, girls and poor scores in school turned the tide and I began looking for help in the internet. I joined because of 4chan and now I'm here nearly 3 years. The biggest change I have noticed is this feeling of awesome confidence. You can do anything you want and the world, God and everything is on your side. Every woman is beautiful and people want to know me better. I'm hoping to look on your answer. I hope that lecture of this thread will bring confidence in our movement and faith that the next day will be better.
I joined this community because I wanted to get support from others and I wanted to get rid of this addiction. This website is alot useful for me compared to 6 months ago.
Bonjour @LongWayHome I joined this community because I want freedom! I hate being controlled and told what to do, even by my parents. So why would I listen to this addiction? I also joined because I want to be the best I can be, and show myself that anything is possible. The thing that brought me here was the nice community. I was desperately looking around on Google for answers on how to quit porn and I found NoFap. The place was comfortable, relaxed and supportive so a few days later I joined. The biggest change I've seen is how I treat others and myself. I no longer see myself as a loser incapable of love or being loved and I see others as human beings, especially girls. I just want to enjoy a girl's company then just seeing her as a object. This is a great thread! Au revoir, Ace
I wrote my reasons in my journal here on nofap few days ago and here they are! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- why I went Nofap and decided to factory reset my brain. . . . why did I suddenly realized that it's an addiction and started taking action on it. 1- became to the realization that masturbating to porn is an addictive behavior that has a destructive effects on my sexuality, brain chemistry, hormone balance, vital energy and soul energy. 2- masturbation reshapes the pre-frontal part of the brain and the dopaminorgic reward pathway, those two parts of the brain are responsible for decision making, willpower and dopamine release ( happy neurotransmitter), this reward pathway is basically what gets you through life, so whenever one achieves something in life, or a task as simple as doing the loundery or making up his bed in the morning. this system is what makes normal people thrive for success in real life, in school, sports and in their career. it's because they get a kick out of their achievements in real life, they get a rush out of it. 3- masturbation over stimulates the reward pathway. normally having sex with women releases endorphines and dopamine, so one feel a good rush. for fullfilling the instinct that we've been created to achieve with reproducing, porn triggers the coolage effect 100x fold, and ur dopamine skyrockets, leaving the dopaminergic receptors numbs and down regulated to a degree where one would revert to novelty porn to achieve the same HIGH one would get with normal intercourse picture. as a result, the small dopamine kicks one get out of normal life routines ................. those can't do anything anymore......... it's like when u drink too much coffee, u the more u increase the dosage the more tolerance you develop in your system, to the point where a single cup of coffee doesn't make you feel anything in terms of alertness. 4- based on the previous point, I want to feel happy, fullfilled and driven, I want to be driven to achieve real milestones in my life, real pursued and goals that have a forever lasting effect, on me, my life, society and people who are around me, instead of wasting all this happy juice( dopamine) on illusions and a pleasure that literally lasts less than a minute. a life time of pleasure is worth all the suffering one would go through to give up fapping. 5- I want to feel a real attraction toward women, and the opposite sex, I want to appreciate their feminine vibe, I want to look at them in the eyes, talk to them, human being to human being without dirty thoughts, fantasies ( women feel it when ur a bit off and messed up in the head ) 6- the longest I have been able to give up fapping is for 54 days, and in that peroid I already felt plenty of change, and I'm now 10 days in and I feel so confident in myself, in social situations and life in general. I don't feel anxiety I smile more and I'm generally happier. even though the only thing changed is stopped to fap. 7- I want to give up masturbation for good, going for a 90 days challenge and then fapping again is like a cocaine addict deciding to go back on white powder after getting a free trial at life........... this isn't how it works, I'm setting small milestones and once I reach them all I'll be adding even more counters and milestones for years to come.. 8- I want to stay focused and self conscious of my behaviors, how I improved, how I am feeling after 1 2 5 9 weeks of no fapping. and I already setup failsafes when I'm weak or when the triggers strike... strategy is everything. if one doesn't plane he will fail. in a battle u cannot just go guns blazing. one should strategize to win.
