Yo guys...I'm new to this platform...i wanna change myself,have control over my thoughts and urges..

Personally, I think the easiest way to control urges is by getting outside of yourself. Think of your consciousness as being a television screen. You can watch whatever you want. You can think about the past, imagine the future, or observe what's around you. At all times when you are conscious, there will be senses informing you as to what is in the present. When you begin to feel urges, you can identify that's what you're feeling, and change the channel to be present. Check in briefly with each of your 5 senses. I would then get yourself engaged in an activity that requires your focus, whether it be work, cleaning you space, exercising, or communicating with someone.