Watch porn for the rest of your life or Get cheated on? I was listening to Esther Perel podcast today and in this episode she had a couple where the wife had cheated on the husband. Without a doubt it was the most unpleasant episode of her podcast I've heard so far. For most of the episode I was angry with woman for cheating on the husband, then I started to wonder what I would do if I was cheated on, and then I started to think that looking at porn is better than being in a relationship since you never know if you'll be cheated on in a relationship. Every person alive is capable of being unfaithful to their SO! You may think you've met a person who'll be faithful to you but you don't know what they will do. People change and can do stupid stuff! I sometimes think it's inevitable that I'll be cheated on since it will be God or the universe way of punishing me for looking at porn. You reap what you sow, right? I probably deserve to be cheated on.
Neither. Sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I've skimmed the forum and notice you're a Christian. Your view on God seems incompatible with your faith. No one deserves to be cheated on.
I been cheated on before and it was the hardest thing I ever had to experience in my life. However, there was also a silver lining in the situation. I used to just give the benefit of the doubt to everyone, and I think it is my personality that I try to find the best in people. Once I found out she cheated on me, I became less trusting of people and I cut her off immediately because I couldn't trust a goddamn thing she said anymore. In life, we can't predict or control a lot of stuff that is going to happen to us, I could get cheated on again yes that is a possibility, but I also don't let my past history of being cheated on reflect my future. Yes you might get cheated on, but on the flip side you might not get cheated on either. You won't know until you put yourself in that situation. And if she does cheat on you, it's better to know that early and leave the relationship than to be with her while she continues to keep doing it. To answer your question, I rather get cheated on any day of the week then to watch porn again, because what your saying is you are afraid to get hurt. Were all going to get hurt, but avoiding getting hurt and watching porn is not the answer here. If someone cheats on you, you get rid of them right away there's no reconciliation in my books.
I have thoughts like these sometimes, but thankfully, God is merciful. To answer the question, getting cheated on would MAJORLY eff me up. I already have trust issues with my husband due to much smaller things. I'm not sure if I would ever be able to get past that. Forgive, sure. But trusting someone again after something like that would be next to impossible for me. Probably impossible to trust anyone romantically, honestly.
yeah that trust is destroyed within minutes, and that dark cloud will linger forever even if you decide to forgive that person.
Yeah, I definitely don't think I could do it. No matter how much I loved the person, I wouldn't be able to be with them anymore. Honestly it's probably the worst thing I can imagine... being in love with someone but having to leave them because they've lied to you so much and about such important things that you just aren't capable of trusting anything they say anymore. I will say, my marriage has suffered several big trials, and the ones involving lies and a loss of trust have ALWAYS almost ruined everything we have. Please, people, be honest with your spouse about things. Lies are worse than just about anything else you can do.
This is some seriously dark and silly stuff choosing porn over a human being because theres a possibility that they MIGHT cheat on you. Humans are flawed of course, but not all of them are going to be unfaithful. Not even close. What good is there in porn? Absolutely NONE. It let's you down every single time. What does the scene look like after every single session? You sitting there with your dick in your hand feeling ashamed that you just "got intimate" with a screen. A screen that literally cannot give a shit about you.
This is pretty personal to me. I choose to get cheated on, mainly to atone for my wrongdoings. I regret the lustful days of my youth, porn may have obscured my perception on relationships in the past, but even then I knew better. I could never ask for forgiveness, for cheating is the equivalent of killing someone and committing this heinous act, whether 10 times, 5 times or even once is abhorrent to any and all who are exposed to this toxin...If only I knew that before...
I meant moreso experiencing the pain of being cheated on. I may have acted wretchedly in my past but to stay with a person I can't trust is worse than being forever alonr
I’d rather watch porn than get cheated on. It’s crazy how many people are saying the opposite. Anyway, the poll doesn’t say how often I have to watch it or even if I have to masturbate to it.
