Hello all, I'm trying to get over one of my last remaining mental barriers to quitting for longer stretches. I'm a former addict, who still has a more minor problem with porn. I use maybe 5-8 times a month on average, and it doesn't really affect my ability to perform adequately in the bedroom. I'm certainly open to the idea that its making sex less than ideal. So my situation: I'm entering a new relationship that I'm quite happy about. We are likely going to have sex for the first time in the coming week or so, and we've done a lot of kissing/touching etc. This gets me very aroused, for long periods of time. I feel a strong urge to release. Later that day, or the next day, my body/mind tricks me by saying things like "you don't want to come too quickly, better release some of that tension now so you can actually enjoy sex once it happens" and "its not good to feel this pressure, its healthy for you" What I'm hoping to hear is that a proper reset wont just make me too sensitive to last as long as I'm used to lasting, and that I will have a slower climb to orgasm that I can control. Any resources/info or personal anecdotes appreciated. Thanks for reading.
Hey man can't tell you if you last shorter this is different for different people. What you could tell your brain is that you are going to enjoy the sex way more than when you release. And if you release a little earlier what is going to happen is she going to criticize you? because if so I would not want her. It is better to take the risk and fail then give up because there is a possibility that you might not last that long.
You are probably right. I hope I can adjust. I'm hoping the increased sensitivity to pleasure in general will make it a better experience for us all. And if it really became a problem, I think perhaps I could masturbate in the moderately distant future without any visual stimuli, or porn related fantasy.
