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I’ve not really struggled with this recovery from a PMO standpoint. I’ve not had an urge for porn outside of my wife’s pictures, which I don’t consider porn. I did let outside porn ruin our relationship.

I do struggle with MO, too often turning to that over my wife, but P was always involved. We are divorcing, but remain close. We had sex — manual, not intercourse — and made out a couple days ago. She pegged me for the second time ever, which we both enjoy. And three weeks off porn and masturbation, I exploded and it felt incredible. (Getting off P was worth it!) I in no way considered that a setback. But now she is gone out of country for two weeks before she moves out. The romp in the BR got my juices flowing and I’ve MO’d twice today, once with toys. And I have toys ordered.

Am I dancing a fine line to get back into PMO? Right now, I have zero interest in returning to porn. But I’m not a monk.!

 

I relapsed yesterday after 714 days. My recipe for success was adding more good habits into my day rather than bad ones. After that you need consistency, I recommend in this stage that you point out cycles.

You’ll find your cycles once you abstain from Porn after long periods of time. It’ll be the actions that you fall right into when you’ve “had enough” or sexually frustrated.

once noted do whatever is necessary to avoid them which would be packing your schedule with health Habits. Cold showers, the gym, breakfast, healthy work life etc.

 

Are you successfull in your life , did you achieved your goals?

 

Wow That’s a long time , sorry to hear about relapse, but hay 714 out of 15 pretty darn good , and u give me hope, day 2 today for me

 

Sounds like your going in a positive direction outside of some negatives

 

Qu’est ce qui vous a fait rechuter?

 

Courage on peut le faire

 

So sorry my friend. But just reading that you released after 714 days is getting me hard. To think of what it feels like after 714 days. Someone getting you hard or did you do it yourself? I’m near a relapse. Can you help me please?

 

The problem with one single relapse is when it turns into multiple relapses then you are back to day 0. If you relapsed 1 time, but you can continue with NoFap religiously, you will be fine.

 

Random question - Sex with prostitutes count as a relapse?

My intention to start nofap was to recover from PIED, I have completed 1 month of nofap and the urge was too great, instead of PMO ing it out, I searched for a h**ker and had sex, I was honestly surprised to see the progress I made since my last time. But still a feeling of guilt and fear of, if I broke a code is there. What are your thoughts? I asked this one time also, but please share again. Thank you in advance.

Update - I also relapsed

 

Hi there, I think our goal is to get rid of porn / masturbation addiction. You are doing it well. Having sex is healthy act . A little concern is do not get addicted for prostitutes as it is also a kind of addiction if you don't stop it early.

Best solution is get a girl. And be a family man. Thank you.

 

Searching for one online is already a relapse: you triggered the same pathways and reactivated those pathways. The fact you relapsed now isn't surprizing: those pathways have been reactivated and urges become stronger to watch porn again. Just do not do it. You're getting stuck in the pleasure trap.

 

I think you’re doing great. If you can keep it to MO that is super. Just be careful, and when you’re tempted to go to P, there are so many things you can find to do to occupy your mind. What I do is clean the sink, take out the trash or do other house chores; take care of some personal business, watch a movie or a show, call someone and go for coffee or a meal. There are an endless number of things you can do when you’re tempted to go to porn. These are things that I do and they’re great tools that work for me. Work on your spiritual program and teach for conscious contact with God or your higher power and ask for strength and ask for the willingness. It all starts with willingness.

 

P. S. Always remember this is a one day at a time deal.