Will my brain rewire itself? 18/m rebooting from a foot fetish.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by takingcontrol88, Jan 29, 2016.

  1. takingcontrol88

    takingcontrol88 Fapstronaut

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    I'm 18 and male and just figured out about this rebooting stuff a month ago, ever since i was 14 I only masturbated to feet, femdom, humiliation, or girls beating me up, I also like oral sex. Never fapped to regular sex until 10 days ago. Never had a girlfriend or anything and my fetishes were not caused by porn.

    I was 18 days into my reboot and I relapsed, to the thought of sex with a normal girl for the first time ever. I was so happy I just started masturbating again but I'm done with that crap, I'm currently on day 3 of rebooting.

    At school today the desks are very close together and I was having sexual thoughts about the girl next to me and kept getting hard erections, something that was impossible before.

    I'm single and don't want a girlfriend right now, I just want to reboot fully and need tips on how to rewire myself by myself, instead of attempting to do stuff with women. Thanks. I though rebooting and rewiring were the same thing but I guess there's a difference, did anyones brain rewire themself?

    I'm not sure if I even had ed, but I think I might have it slightly, I'm just confused guys sorry my situation is different than many so that's why I've made multiple threads and will really appreciate the help please.
     
  2. joarev85

    joarev85 Fapstronaut

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    Hi! First of all relapsing is a big part of the rebooting process. Everyone relapses. But you should not be angry at yourself. Be proud of that you want to get rid of the addiction. Be proud of that you want to take actions for a better life:) be proud of that you want a real girl instead of a computergirl not now, but maybe later. Now you are on the right way of thinking. Now you have grown stronger. Dont forget that!!!
    If you read about some of the posts in here you would read that many have tried cold showers. It has helped me. I relapsed three days ago and i have taken cold showers since then. Also before the relapse i took them. They are helpfull because they will get the urges out of your body for a while. And the cold showers are to be said also helpfull for your brain because it releases positive chemicals instead of negative, if you know what i mean. Dopamine is a negative chemical if connected to porn - addiction. You dont want to much of it. Having one cold shower each day has helped me alot. I strongly recommend them, but its your choice of course.
    But even if i take cold showers that is unfortunately not enough in the rebooting process. You also want to be extremely careful when surfing the web. Dont use YouTube . It contains a lot of triggers and also hidden porn. YouTube causes many relapses, because if you fall into the habit of trigger yourself a lot, when you have the urges to fap, then it is almost 100% sure that it will end in a relapse PMO .

    So to answer your questions about reboot and rewiring.
    Rewiring: your brain "changes" itself into negative way of thinking caused by high levels of dopamine which infects your body. This happens after watching porn over time and masturbate and orgasm, known as PMO.

    Rebooting: you dont watch porn, dont masturbate, and dont orgasm. Time of reboot is estimated to 90 days. Its a hell of challenge, you challenge your brain to stay away from porn. After a while you feel better. One month of rebooting is big improvements for many including myself, but also one of the hardest challenges. You're brain has time to heal and is actually rewiring itself back to normal. Okay so you could use rewiring in both ways, positive and negative.
     
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  3. TheBeachvillain

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    That's quite a mysterious fetish you've got. I guess you could say something is






    ..afoot.
     
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  4. takingcontrol88

    takingcontrol88 Fapstronaut

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    hey guys thanks for replying, I'm not afraid of relapsing. I just don't know how to rewire myself, can i rewire just by purely rebooting, anyone have insight on that specific issue?
     
  5. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

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    I have a shoe fetish (women wearing high heels, flats, shiny, stilettos not the platform crap), which led me to a little foot fetish.
    I don't need to see feet or have the wife wearing shoes for me to get an erection and go on with my sex life. But that would be like icing on the cake...a "gift".
    I can get triggers watching TV, catalogues, on the street, at the mall...