Why you should comfort people's insecurities. (& not make fun of them, make them feel good about it)

Broadly there are 4 ways you can handle someone's insecurity.

I'm going to give you all 4 from the least effective to the most effective.

1) You insult their insecurities.

You can do this as a joke or you can do this real.

2) You do backhanded actions.

"Oh, they are insecure about you leaving them, push-pull about the fact that you will leave them, but you won't, because you love them".

"Oh, they are insecure about their weight, you take them on a picnic and you get only healthy food with you, so you only eat the healthy alterantive, to very subtly make fun of them. Like "hmm, this is so much better than the regular kind". Kind of giving them the impression that you think they're too dumb for them to understand.

But really they think you're too dumb for them to understand that you understand what you're doing.

Or, they are insecure about you being friend with a certain person "oh no, you can hang out with us", but then when all 3 of you hang out you're like super close to the person that they're insecure about you being close with.

You know, being pre-selected and such. Do these things work? yeah. But there are other more efficient means.

People are always like "use their insecurities against them", but the thing is, you're not using them against them, you're using them in your favor. They are using their insecurities against themselves already, which leads me to the next one.

3) Leave them alone.

You are understand they are already beaten up and beat themselves up all the time. The job is finished you really don't have to do anymore. Anything you say like insults or back ended actions, is not going to do much towards that cause. You're validating their thoughts. And when someone is insecure you don't want them to validate their thoughts, you want to keep them in the dark.

Why would you want to validate their thoughts? You want them to question themselves because you understand that, giving them any form of validation makes them less vulenrable, so it simply doesn't make any sense for you to validate any of their insecurities.

And no.1 and by far the best method.

4) Make them not feel insecure.

Riddle me this, if you're trying to make somebody into sleeping with you and staying with you, or never wanting to leave you, why would you want them to feel worse while they are around you?

I'll wait.

Exactly. You want them to feel worse when you're not around. Lovebomb. Make your love interest feel so good about themselves, that when you're not around they are like "damn, this sucks".

Can you succeed by making someone feel worse? absolutely, you can, people do it every day, but things so much people do it that when you do the opposite it is so much more effective.

A lot of people nowdays just wants someone to be nice to them, giving them at least what they think they want, especially when it's so easy.

Why would you not like it?

So, yeah, if anything. Comfort their insecurities, make them feel less insecure about themselves. Lovebomb, that's how you win them over. Lovebomb.