Why Do We Straight Guys Whack Off to Videos of Alpha Males Having Sex?

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Thinking that those porn stars are alpha males and you should be like them is exactly one of the problems with porn, because it makes you depressed that you are not like them (you dont last 1 hour, your dick is not a cucumber, you dont have muscles, your gf doesn't cry because your such a good fucker etc...) Realize that porn = fiction and there is no reason to try to copy porn behavior, even most girls don't you to be like a porn star....

 

Yeah, I am an old romantic. I don't like videos where they are naked and going at it from the first moment like a frenzied rut! I suppose I was picky lol. I preferred it when there was some kind of story - ideally where they begin fully clothed. That lends itself to kissing and an increase in the sexual feelings and behaviours played out in the video.

 

I am curious on what his thought process is if he actually watches b/g porn for the ladies because that was my initial reasoning as well when I started watching porn and kept watching porn for almost 20 years. Even though now I don't do it because it feels disturbing to watch another man f@$ a woman you're attracted to because you want to see her.

Basically I tricked myself that I watched b/g porn for the woman when i could've watched solo girls if I watched it for the woman.

 

Watching a girl being dominated is what adds to the rush.

I rarely watched b/g though. Because a lot of the time the guy included was a big turn off for me.

 

That's an interesting explanation but still begs the question.. why watch her get dominated by someone else? That means you failed doing that yourself.

Could you expand on this? Was that always the case? Did you start b/g porn at a young age? What was your initial reaction to b/g porn? Did you keep watching it from time to time?

 

This right here has been my fetish, just watching solo girls. But it still screws your brain up.

 

-Because not everyone get to dominate hot women in many uncomfortable, yet hot positions. Porn is filmed and directed in a way that would be a huge turn on. In real life, even if you do get in bed with a beautiful girl, that doesn't mean it's going to be the same experience. Besides, even the, you'd still always want to interact with more hot, different women. Not everyone get the chance to do so, and sometimes it's not up to them. Not everyone can get beatufiul women.

-I started off with solo girls and g/g. Then I watched some b/g but I prefered to stick to the solo and g/g because it was way more of a turn on for me. Never craved watching b/g unless for a few specific videos I can remember enjoying, but still, the guys were a turn off.
Then I watched some virtual sex and JOIs almost exclusively(that stems from other, personal issues which I've shared in previous threads).

I just overall find that more intimate, passionate sex rather than a poundingfest more exciting and fun.

 

I resent everyone who participates in producing pornography. They're trying to profit from the suffering of others. They're enabling a serious addiction that is destroying lives by the millions.

If it was up to me, they'd all get the death penalty.

 

Wow. That is fucked up, extreme, and kind of pathetic.

Not everyone's suffering from porn addiction. Most people are capable of rational, normal use that doesn't fuck with their brain. Don't pin your issues on them. I, just like you, am addicted because of personal issues and because I let it get to that point. We destroyed our own lives. Giving them the death penalty because some people can't control their urges is fucking moronic.

 

There is no such thing as "normal porn use". That's like saying "normal bleach drinking".

 

A large number of them are coerced into producing porn; indeed a large number are there as a result of human trafficking and sexual slavery.

Many who are not doing it out of economic desperation or forced labor do it without realizing the harm that they cause to others and themselves. And the harm the performers cause to themselves - both the men and the women - can be quite dramatic.

So, I think the performers deserve pity - but the producers, directors, etc. do deserve resentment and hatred.

 

Not to sound like a troll but that's a bit presumptuous.

 

Why would you say that?

 

Because my partner and I are ethically non monogamous and I very much enjoy watching her with other people and she likes seeing me with others as well.

 

I don't believe anyone is 100% straight or gay or anything. They are just labels. I personally feel a lot of "straight" identified men watch straight porn for the dick.

 

This is a very moronic comparison. Some people just watch porn for 30 minutes at most, relieve themselves and go one with their lives once in a while. I know many people who watch porn once in a while, I have a few friends who do, but they still live a normal life and have normal sex life and relationship. So yes, there's a way to consume porn without it fucking up your brain.

Some people here are simply way too extreme and can't own up to their own mistakes.