Hello, Today I listen to a podcast that asked the question "Why did you quit porn?" The point of the question was, if you don't remember the reason you quit or if it's not a good enough reason, you will probably relapse. Part of the problem is our brains will trick us into forgetting the bad times and we will remember only the good things that we liked about porn. My reason for quitting is that I have wasted an incredible amount of time PMO. This is time that I could have used to have a better life. Staring at a computer screen while PMO is the least productive activity that I can imagine. There are a ton of other negative things that happened because of the PMO, but the main thing was the time that I lost. Wasting time prevents me from using that time to build a potentially better life. Since coming back here this time after a 5-year stint of heavy porn viewing I have learned: I used porn as an escape any time I felt a negative emotion: loneliness, boredom, frustration with my unfulfilling job, etc. I used to think porn satisfied my high sex drive, but now I realize it was killing my healthy sex drive. The healthy sex drive made me want to have sex with the woman in my life. The porn sex drive made me isolated while I PMO'ed to digital images. I have a lot of work to do on myself, and PMO was a symptom of my problems and escape mechanism. PMO was not the real problem. Procrastination is a big issue in my life and now that I'm not looking at porn I have the time to do what needs to be done. The issue now is forcing myself to get things done and to stop the avoidance habit that I have strengthened via PMO. It will be interesting to see why you stopped using porn. Do you think it's a good enough reason to keep you from going back to it?
Same here. There is something sinister about porn. I haven't figured out yet what it is, but it makes me feel uneasy. I noticed that whenever I looked at porn, I took on a bad vibe. Religious people may say that it your inner sinful nature calling you out, knowing that what you're doing is wrong on some level. Even if you don't believe these sort of things, there is definitely an aspect of shame involved. I don't want to feel that so that's my main motivation.
No doubt you are correct about the shame. I can't imagine that the majority of porn users end a session feeling proud about what they spent their time looking at.
Porn is such a rotten thing. It takes all the joy out of life, makes me feel like a "little boy" not in age but in character. I feel people can see this, especially in the grip of a porn binge. Gaze is down and mind like "don't look at me". That's why I quit porn!
No erection while being an 40yo looser standing in front of an 10/10 25yo girl who wants to fuck you hard! My personal experience
That would be a terrible situation for sure. ED is a vast subject with many causes. Sometimes being nervous can cause the same ED issue, it makes me wonder if this situation would have happened even without you feeling addicted to porn? Whatever the reason, feel better about yourself and you probably won't have this problem again.
I never thought I had a reason until recently. I went on a trip to see my internet friends in real life. It was great, they enjoyed having me around, and I enjoyed having them around. We cried, we hugged, and we all are looking forward to it happening again. That is the reason. I want to talk to people. I want to be creative. I want to let people know that they're loved, and all that gooey cheesy nonsense. Now everytime I get triggered, I just think about them, and how much I want to be there for them for when next year comes.
That's true, but not just that, also videogames make me feel like a loser. I feel like the problem is that you don't need to go outside and seek for someone to approach due to porn orgams that make you feel like you need to approach a girl, so when you have to do it, or when you just have to exit and speak with people you will act like that. Thanks God I have a philosophy shield all around me so I'm not that bad.
MY REASON IS: if i fap i look like a beta and nobody respect me if i don't i look like a man, if i do i feel blame and depress gulty, shy and lack of confident if i don't the completly opossitte
I shed the burden of pornography because I was not being true to myself when I viewed it. Instead it kept me connected to unhealed trauma, negativity, and self betrayal because viewing pornography was wrong and I knew.
