Why can tomboys exist but not the other way around?

Depends on who you talk to, I think. Some tomboys I'm sure have felt ostracized, and I'm sure some feminine men feel totally comfortable and accepted.

 

I had a friend in college who was a bit of a pretty boy, and he was a total babe-magnet. I even had a crush on him, and my type is generally rugged kinda men. He was just a fantastic person though, so happy and kind and encouraging. Personality can make all the difference.

 

I love reading these.

Girl: He's an amazing, kind, happy, and encouraging babe-magnet.

Inquisitive Person: You two together?

Girl: No.

Sorry. It just makes me laugh. Nothing personal.

 

My boyfriend is a little rugged and a little "feminine", I guess. He has a tight, slim body. But it's the kind of physique where you can tell there's muscle underneath. And he takes care of his skin. Washes his face in the morning and at night.

Fashion-wise, he's conscious of clashing colors and materials. But he doesn't obsess over it. So, I guess he's the best of both worlds. A guy's guy who's not afraid of experimenting with gels or facial creams if he thinks he'll look good.

 

That's very ironic that you mentioned your friend. When I was in college, however, there was this tomboy whom I really adored. Unfortunately, she was a lesbian, but it was pretty obvious. She was cute, adventurous, sassy, and really outgoing. The girl can break dance like no tomorrow and I was sure a few guys fell for her including myself. I enjoyed being around her when I had the chance. And like your friend, she had an amazing personality. It's funny how these things work out.

 

He was out of my league, in my opinion. I mean maybe he didn't feel that way, but I wasn't confident enough to have tried to go for him. Also we had incredibly different spiritual beliefs, which is something I'm not really willing to compromise on.

But anyway, have fun making snap judgments. It always works out well.

 

@StepsReborn: I don't see where I made a snap judgment about you personally, but hey you're free to get your panties in a wad.

 

Yes

 

It makes me so happy to see someone say this. I don't understand the obsession with needing to be an "alpha." The world needs "betas."

 

Well I'm sorry you feel that way man; I was just pointing out how some people of different sexual orientations can be amazing in terms of personality and such. Try not to put yourself down for something that those girls said, they don't know you.

 

Yeah, absolutely! imagine if every man in the world was an "alpha"... *shudders* there's a reason we weren't all made to be the same. Different people have different gifts and are used in different ways for different purposes. It's all good stuff!

 

I assumed you was a girl because of your avatar. That and your gender not being specified in your forum profile. Your forum nickname should be The Gender Failure (lol jk I don't mean to be rude).

Really man just be who you are. That alpha, beta nonsense is just another tool for people to stroke their own egos. And if somebody goes crazy about a man being feminine it shows who they are, it has nothing to do with you. If you are "beta" you can always find an 'alpha" girl, there are many relationship dynamics out there that works.

If you wanna get date tho you will need to show initiative. Some women might be dominant and like passive, cute, shy guys but they still expect them to take initiative at least initially. That's just how our society has trained us to think. If you don't you will need to wait and awfully long while.