Why beatifull women intimidate some men

i'm scared as hell by every human interaction, i guess for me women are just a reflection of that. I have the belief that woman will be upset by me by default. Don't know why.

 

I agree that porn helps to create unrealistic beauty standards.

With the subject of rejection it's not easy for everyone to put the fear aside though I'm not saying we should accept fear. Many psychologists would say that our brains are designed to keeps us safe not happy. For a lot of men when they see a beautiful woman it's almost like the brain says "She could get any man she wants. What's the likelihood that you can get her? Don't bother approaching her and save yourself the hurt of rejection." because the brain thinks it's saving you from emotional pain. But of course we'll never know unless we try, though personally I'm not trying to date right now.

 

Men fear beautiful women because they don't feel like they're good enough for them. They place 9s and 10s on a pedestal and they never think they're attractive enough to get them. They say to themselves, "This girl probably has hundreds of men wanting her, what makes me, the loser, think that I can be with her?" Unless you're someone with very high status and have women throwing themselves at you constantly (like celebrities), you will always feel like a 9 or 10 is out of your league. No matter how attractive you are.

I believe one of the major reasons for this is because the majority of men never get complimented and don't really receive any attention at all from women. I've met very attractive men who think they're hideous because nobody ever compliments them or pays attention to them whereas the majority of women (even less attractive ones) get complimented and hit on constantly by men.

The funny thing is, women could be thinking the same thing about us ("Wow, he's so handsome, I'm not good enough for him") but our lack of self-confidence and self-esteem won't ever allow us to believe a woman could be saying that about us.

 

I wonder how many feel that way about a woman who has a doctorate and is a leader in her field...

 

Most of us know that how men look at women can be very different with the way women look at men. A man who is successful in his field will be a more desirable man to women but vice versa not necessarily so, mostly because a lot of men were not raised to seek financial security in a woman.

But in the past I would get to know a woman regardless of whether she made more money than me but what I got to realize is that most of them were not interested in a guy that made less money than them. There have been a number of times when I've listened to a woman talk about how she was in a relationship with a guy but once she got a promotion or a higher paying job than her man then the amount of respect that she held for him would dwindle, some would try to get their man to do better career-wise but if the women saw no improvement then they would move on.

Another aspect that I have noticed with some (not all!) women that move on up in the workplace is a change in attitude. I've seen very friendly women become hardened as they got promoted, I'm guessing it's because a lot of the higher positions are typically filled by men so they feel the need to toughen up. Being tougher may help them in the workplace but in terms of relationships it can end up being more difficult for them because now they come across as more masculine, meanwhile men are typically attracted to a feminine woman not a masculine one, just as women typically want a masculine man.

So for me I became more reluctant to approach a successful woman in her field for the above reasons. I'm not trying to paint a picture where all successful women a terrible to be with, there are definitely some nice ones too.

 

I had a friend. He was a criminal, without money, without any work.

He used to enter the pub and sit down. Doing nothing. Women were falling at his feet and were coming chasing him.

It is something other than all the bullshit we tell ourselves..

It's WHO WHE FUCKING ARE.

There isn't any kind of woman except mature ones and immature ones, like mans, regarding of occupation. It's mostly appearance...


There is a beautiful saying: without your money and facilities, who are you? If you are placed in an environment without anything known, what will you do? How will you relate to your environment?

This answers the problem. Those who are comfortable, doesn't ask. Those who are not will ask the dumbest questions like we are doing.

AND i've seen friends that were masturbating, maybe not porn addicted but anyway masturbating, that were the most succesfull man with woman i ever saw.

I shared with one of them a piece of my life and i saw how he was doing. Between one girlfriend and the other there were at least 5 to 6 lovers.. every time.


There are men who are brave and men who are not... and practice may be helpful in becoming one who is!

It can be learnt, some of us are more talented and some of us require more practice.. nothing new in the school, isn't it?

EVERYONE can practice and become acquainted with reality.

I'm DRUNK and am telling all this to myself as i'm one of you that is willing to become good with women and that is not heavily talented like my friends were.


So.. i hope all of us will find our way because our desire is strong!

 

There is a Chinese saying 'The ugly wife is a treasure at home'. Can someone explain the meaning?