I was thinking about this myself, and knowing exactly why I'm quitting is very important when I have high urges so that I can stay focused. Why, exactly, are you quitting PMO?
PMO has enslaved me. It has taken me from an outgoing, fun loving, people loving man, to an introverted, sad and lonely dork. Course, i'm well on my way to recovery, but i don't forget. That whore-devil pmo is a slave driver straight from hell.
It gets in the way of me being able to shine Gods light, and it gets in the way of me finding true love and having a happy marriage for eternity, and it also drains me of all my energy, every time I look at it I become lazier than I already act, and I don't want to do anything.
It's a waste of time. And I learned how destructive it can be and has been to my own personal life. So I don't want it in my life anymore. That's why.
My name is Matt And I've been doing PMO since 2013-2017 and it's been ruining my grades at school and social life and this month 2017 I've been fapping everyday no stop I realized of how unhealthy it was, Today I have decided to give myself a change I've been looking for a community dedicated to anti PMO, PMO affected my life heavily, Lost a lot of friends and self esteem it's giving me problems constantly and I wish to have a second chance. The urge is going back to me and I have to fight it, how do you fight the urge?
Hello ! I have written my eleven WHY statements in my reboot log, so I am going to copy/paste here below. Hope it can be useful ! 1. To take care of me body (masturbation sucks its energy) and my spirit (porn is entirely insipid and pollutes my brain). 2. To have more time in order to explore new hobbies and skills. To be more focused and less drifted. 3. To interact with people in a more confident and relaxed way. 4. This fourth objective is the funniest one, but it is important : to keep my clothes and bedsheets clean (Lol). Yeah, even if I used to take precautions with hankies, sometimes an "accident" happened (Lol again). And I have already felt embarrassment about that... 5. To be able to have normal sexual relations, that is, a sustainable erection. I should not need neither my hand nor a mental auto-stimulation. All the senses must get back to the right track, especially sense of touch. 6. I have reached an other stage in my life. I mean that my consciousness level is too much high for stagnating in this addiction (I said that without any flashiness). This 6th goal has come into my mind after imaging me during a wank in front of a pixels cluster... this scenery made me feel a kind of discrepancy. This is NOT "Me" anymore. (I hope you will understand what I mean, a bit difficult to translate this sentence from french language) 7. To build a healthy lifestyle. I want to include the following components in my daily routine : meditation, good sleep, positive statements and gratefulness, workout, balanced diet, enriching readings, and why not discover other leisure activities ? for instance singing or dubbing in my own case. I already do some of these things, and I realize that porn is really an intruding feature in this positive background. I mean, porn is likely to disappear in this virtuous circle. 8. Dopamine rebalancing I have disrupted the receivers of this hormone for so many years... and I was surprised to feel bored and indifferent in front of beautiful landscapes (for instance). I assume that Time is my friend, and the dopamine will return to normal little by little... 9. To become a better man, to respect other guys. To be less obsessed by their looks. At the same time, I will not be an accomplice of porn industry anymore. If porn is harmless and if "actors" have a fulfilled life, then why the hell the half of them go to an early grave ...? (because of a suicide, or STD, or overdose most of the time...) 10. To preserve my health because PMO is liable to lead me to compulsion in real life with strangers. I want not to run the risk of being infected by a STD ! As a reminder, I have already caught C-Hepatitis (fortunately there was a spontaneous recovery without any treatment) 11. I cannot PMO anymore because, in my personal case, there is a piece of jealousy in my addiction... in other words, PMO'ing leads me to admit and believe that other men are better than me (regarding the body for instance) and my self-esteem decreases... Actually I should not mind other people. I have to stop deadening my jealousy with PMO. I have to transmute it in a motivation engine, in order to become a "better myself".
Thanks for the responses. One of the main reasons that I want to quit pmo is because of the damage it does to my friends and family. Thanks for the response Neptunes86, I made a similar list of the reasons why I need to give pmo. I want to quit pmo because... ...I want to restore the relationships with my friends and family. ...I don't want to waste any more of my life to pmo. Time is precious and pmo takes up so much of it and it damages the time not spent pmoing. ...I want to be more productive ...I want to improve my self esteem and be more social ...I want to have a clear mind ...I want to move forward in my life and not be stuck in the same place ...I want to read more, learn more and experience more things in life. ...I want to develop myself in a healthy way, not in constant addiction. ...I want to decrease my social anxiety ...I want to be more active and fit. pmo usually takes away my motivation to do so. ...I want to have more motivation in life in general. ...I want to do something important with my life and reach my highest potential. self actualization is what it's called, I think. ...I want to experience life to the fullest ...I don't want to be in constant stress and anxiety ...I want to improve my financial situation. That's all I can think of right now.
A couple of things stand out: 1. I don't want to be a slave to PMO anymore! 2. I want the confidence that I can perform with a real woman without the fear of porn induce impotence. 3. I don't want to feel like miserable loser every time I fall to PMO.
I've gotten sick of being depressed and always think so low on myself. Got sick and tired of feeling detached from reality feeling like I am trapped inside a numb box. That's my main reason for quitting PMO. Even if no one really wants me in real life.
To be able to have sex and to rid myself of social anxieties, and anxieties in general. It's ruining everything
My main objective is to cure my PIED. But I also want to get rid of porn-induced fetishes, have more motivation and discipline in general, and be more sociable, mainly when talking to girls.
Mainly because I want to improve myself, improve my mindset and reduce anxiety, improve my creativity, and to be more productive.
Nothing fancy, three simple reasons: 1) It's a waste of my time and energy. 2) I love a good challenge. 3) I enjoy how I feel when I've spent some time away from PMO.
I'm only quitting porn and reducing masturbation after the 90 day hard reboot. I have no plans to give up orgams especially when I get married
