Hey, How do I change my daily routine? I feel stuck. Im stuck with online gaming and PMO-ing. Im a student and that's what I often do since I have few friends because Im new to the school Im in. How do I embetter my life?
I’m sure you’ve heard the cliché about the definition of insanity. You have to decide to start doing some things different. And you don’t have to throw away everything. I’m a man in his 30s, computer geek my whole life, no friends, and a recovering porn addict. Since I decided to change, I’ve started learning how to play bass guitar. I went to a recovery support group and shared my story with strangers the first time I went. I took up an offer to goto a brewery with some people from church. I’m growing my hair out for the first time which required me to purchase (and use) a comb (and also care about myself a bit). I’ve bought bolo ties and a few other items to start defining myself. Not every case is going to go perfect. And that’s okay. But you do have to be willing to do something different, and then do it.
Some people change of their own volition; because they understand the value of the process and enjoy new challenges for the value it creates in their lives. Other times it is forced upon us. And although this feels bad because of fear, anxiety, and the unpleasantness of being forced out of our comfort zones...it is a sign that a change was needed. The reasons will vary. But the fact remains that change is necessary, and in retrospect, can be seen as a blessing in disguise. Initiate and embrace the process of change, because it is a very important part of living a good life.
@AM141 , I like basketball, but I know I'm not good enough and that's what keeps me from joining. I also have a background in teakwondo, but that was many years ago. Im planning on going to the gym and learn some boxing or MMA, actually a friend asked me join but I'm short in finances. A months session would cost 8 days of my allowance. But, I exercise every once in a while. I think the problem with me is saying NO most of the time. I know I could change every aspect of my life, but my subconscious would pull me back to what Im used to. I would always reason with myself on doing the things I'm used and avoid doing something new. Probably because I've made some reeeeaally bad choices. I studied at the top performing school in our country (passed the entrance and had free education in Highschool), had the perfect girlfriend (gorgeous with curves and smart, she's also an awesome dancer), and had lots of friends. But, I gave it all up and went to a different university at college and that's when it all crumbled. Had the wrong peers and transferred to three different schools for three years. My parents who used to be very proud of me, well, tell me in my face how disappointed and ashamed they are. I was once so proud of myself I let go of all the good, thinking I could find something better. Now, I feel I lost all my self-worth and hid in my own little shell. I want to be better, I may not bring back how invulnerable I once felt, but I want to increase what little worth I have to myself. I know Im capable I just don't know where to start. Yo, sorry for the somewhat unrelated reply. I feel like sharing, hope you could help. Peace
@sparkywantsnoPMO, awesome man. But, my case is kind of different. Everything was great, but I decided to change and that's when sh*t happened. I can say the old me was very much accepting of new things to come, but the results weren't as desired. And now, Im very much a slave to stagnation. I'm afraid to f**k things even further. I feel like an eagle who tried to live in the ocean where fish is abundant and now he drowned. Well yeah, how can you even go further down when you're at the bottom. I wish I can just overcome this anxiousness whenever I talk to a friend with his group while I'm walking alone because every time I do that it gets more and more awkward and we kinda drift further away. Being an irregular student sucks.
