What's the point in trying if you know you're going to fail?

Lets say im going to try and brcause a tennis champions. But nah im not going to because im not going to make it anyway so im going to be a loser. How stupid does that sound??? shoot.. shoot for the moon if you miss you will land amoung the stars. Make your shot

 

What do you have to lose by continuing? Listen I can't see myself ever making it to 90 days, but I'm just going to fucking go for it anyway since I have nowhere else to go. Fighting still provides my life with more hope than giving up.

 

It doesnt matter if u make it or not you still made ur shot for greatness. Soon u will be at 90 days you look back and be like - what was i even worrying about?...

 

You can't quit. Don't do it because if you do you'll spend your whole life wondering what life would be like if you hadn't quit you're going to wonder about what 90 days feels like for the rest of your life. Someone on here told me that 7 to 10 days is one addict have the hardest time. And it's so true because for me 7 to 10 days as one of my urges are the strongest and what happens is when I am preoccupied with things or people I don't relapse. If you have tried so many times so desperately to go past this streak there might be something you could try that once helped me. Find someone to talk to in real life. Find someone who will be willing to help you through your addiction. I don't care if it's a trusted co-worker family member or friend or even some random person that you trust enough to watch you. For me it was a doctor that I used to work with who had been to alcohol anonymous groups because he was an alcoholic so he understood my problem. When you know that your urges strike the hardest planned that weekend or that day to stay with them with the internet off and no access to p. It sounds like Desperate Measures but it really helps because once you fight through the hardest part it gets so much easier. I made it to 30 days after never being able to pass a week. The only reason I relapse is because I accidentally stumbled across something that triggered me but find something like this do something anything even if it sounds desperate that can get you past the worst days and you will experience true clarity. And most of all just don't stop fighting

 

Ill give you a quote that i really like.
Suffer the pain of dicipline,
Or suffer the pain of REGRET
oh you will regret quitting in the future. You will look back saying what theFUUUCCKK why didnt i just do thaT? im stupid!!

 

and the only person you can blame is you..

 

Just keep chipping away. I've been in a relapse cycle for a year now and I won't give up because someday I will break through.

Also, PMOing causes fatigue and dulls your senses so your hard work isn't all for nothing. Your better now than you would be PMOing every day. For now focus on improving your life and finding that missing thing you need to beat this.

 

this:


from here: http://yourbrainonporn.com/reboot_your_brain

 

Judging from your name of the OP, you have a very critical view of yourself. Time will come, and you're going to beat this for good. I'm 15 years old, and I made it to 90 days. Now, it took me almost a year after dwelling on these forums to finally get a decent streak going.

NoFap is a marathon, not a sprint. Healing and change takes time. You will definitely thank yourself in the future for being patient. If urges arises, simply do something else.. whatever it is. Limit your computer or phone, or limit yourself almost completely in another room. Occupy yourself with sport, studying, reading, socializing, watching a movie, literally anything that mostly productive.

Be adamant with yourself for what things that needs to be done if you don't want it too. That's self-discipline. And perhaps, find a balance and enjoy the smaller things. I hated reading before. But I went to the store this morning with my aunt, and picked out a book. And damn it, I'm in love! Give it a try, bud.

Chemical castration or antiadrogen is never a good idea. You won't establish natural discipline, and won't find what's in your journey that'll make your streak easier for you.

 

I would suggest trying using different phrases you use to motivate yourself. Instead of 'This time will be different' how about "Today I will try hard' or "I want to quit porn". Big changes happen when you can start to make little changes that add up over time. Forget about 90 days, forget about a single week. Focus on the present, and build up those little successes. Did you get through an hour? Celebrate that! Did you get through an entire day? You're a rockstar! I think when people are struggling, the number 90, or really any number you choose to shoot for can feel so intimidating and impossible to reach.

It took me almost a year of fighting before I could get even to 30 days. This takes time but don't give up, and please don't beat yourself up over relapse. I promise you'll win in the end if you just keep getting back up and trying again.

 

I must say my friend you are an incredible person. Most at 15 do not see a problem with PMO. Also great tips and positivity

 

What's the point?

No one can answer that for you.

You're just lonely my friend and lack hope.

Have some hope kiddo

 

Failure is a choice.

It's just that we live in a world where we must learn through suffering unfortunately.

This ain't heaven on Earth kids, if you wanna get to heaven YOU BETTER START BEHAVING BETTER.

 

Please change your username and signature quote.

I'm not asking nicely.

That affects other users here son. You are also magnifying your own suffering to an unnecessary extent.

Thinking of others more would be a good start, don't unintentionally drag people down into your misery my boy

Holding hands here can only get us so far.

Sometimes someone has to lay down the blunt truth for you to open your eyes.

Now I don't expect to come back to reply to any backrubbers quoting this post.

 

You don't know you can't do it. All past data suggests you will probably fail. But you don;t know. So plan for success. This will always be a struggle. It's not something you are just done with. It gets easier, it becomes more of a healthy lifestyle, but you will always have the addict in you.

All or nothing thinking is what got many of us here in the first place. It's like people who skip the gym because they couldn't be there the full hour. Better to be there 27 minutes than no time at all.

57 3-day streaks are better than 0 streaks.

Don;t demand perfection, just growth and self knowledge.

 

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Thanks. I'm flattered.

 

listen dude @The human failure

I been doing this NoFap challenge for 3 years now and the first year i didn't even really try that hard and couldn't even reach a streak that lasted more than 5 days.

Second year i started reaching some good streak, started with 7 days then 21, then 28 then 30 then 14 then so on.. Till i did 30 days complete hard mode without any stimulation/jerking/watching porn or p-subs.

Then this third year hit (2016) and i think my highest streak so far is slightly over 40 days? am unsure because i had so many fucking relapses and multiple multiple relapses that i pretty much undone all the progress i made in 2015.

You know why i continue? because when i am stuck with porn/consuming internet shit i waste my life, i dont really live. i am a Voyer in this world just watching others live and not really doing much for myself and just wasting my piece of shit body and my fucking potential to live and do something. IT doesnt even have to be anything meaningful like @Jen@8675309 said, stop beating yourself up and press yourself to try harder because you are simply NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH.

Don't even need to listen to any of your excuses, dont bullshit yourself... Just look at what profile name you made yourself? STOP being so down on yourself dude, listen dude, LISTEN DUDE it all starts from you, nobody can make you reach 90 days and nobody can even do that for you, we can only help and listen to you and offer solutions.


I CHALLENGE TO PUSH YOURSELF, to give up your SmartPhone and revert to an old phone, i challenge you to reach 30 days to change all, ALL YOUR LIFE PATTERNS that lead you to activate your triggers and initiate your relapses. I challenge you, what the hell do you have to lose? NOTHING.. Just waste of your fucking sperm.

Real talk dude, Failure only helps you reach success and if you quit now you'll be back to where you started and where you started is kinda of where you want to be RIGHT NOW, Sure YOU THOUGHT YOU ARE GOING TO BE DOING 90 Days instantly, dude if it was THIS EASY EVERYBODY WOULD DO IT and the fact you find so many people here that have climbed mount everest, managed to reach the stage where they live as if porn doesnt exist MEANS YOU CAN DO IT TOO