What's the best way?

I know some people may say "it's however you feel it", but what I feel is uncertain so I would like to hear some opinions.

ONE BY ONE
It's a common self development practice to stick to habits one by one. Maybe start with waking up early for 21 days. Then add cold showers. Then exercise. Etc.
It's slow, yeah, but the argument is that we shouldn't overload our discipline capacity.
This may be extended to bad habits, so you basically reduce them one by one, or even just reduce how much you do it.

COLD TURKEY
Some other folks believe in the "cold turkey" approach, where you just drop the bad habit and deal with the withrawal. An usual refutal is that any bump in the wrong direction and you're back to old behaviours.

Honestly I tried both, and yeah, clearly none worked. Maybe I tried wrong.

ULTRA COLD TURKEY
I was thinking about just writing down ALL the things I "should" be doing, all the things I should not, and just STICK TO A PLAN, and at any decision point I just stick to this higher self I composed on paper.

What do you think? Is there a way you can think of to clear the neural pathways? I feel like dropping all bad habits at once may keep them wired with each other in your brain in the background, so as soon as I'm pushed in the wrong directions, all bad habits will come like a dominoe.
Maybe dropping the habits in order so they lose the neural association? Idk

 

Yeah this really helped. We often get stuck on the methods and forget that there is always an underlying reason we do things, and if we don't treat it, we will keep doing the things.

Although I don't really know where to start. Meditation maybe?

I'm reading The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle, and he really talks about 1. Stop identifying with your pain and 2. Accepting your pain, and feeling it to understand it.

PMO and all addictions are ultimately a way we mask those feelings, in order to not feel them. So the answer is clear: feel them, let them go by, don't let them become you, but give them a place in your body. Feel them in your body.

The problem honestly is that I don't know how. I understand that meditation is basically the practice of what I described above, but I feel unable to feel my feelings.

Whenever I'm sad, angry, whatever, I try to sit with the feeling and "feel it" without intellectualizing it, and it immediately goes away. I can't feel it, it just goes away.

Any advice?