Hi there, I'm new to this forum, 23, and i've been watching Porn since I was 14 or 15. I've been struggling to get hard during sex for at least a month and so I found out about Porn Addiction and saw that alot of the symptoms where matching with me. After a week without Porn (wich was very very hard and already made my sex life better) I knew finally with certainty that I was addicted. When I was at home alone I kept hearing the voice in my head telling me to do it - it was SO STRONG, SO STRONG (!!!), I've never ever felt something like this in my life. I gave up. I was devastated, my head was spinning. I was pumped, completely pumped with hormones and other things. I always had very less understanding for people with addiction, I couldn't understand how someone could have so less will power - now I know it. I've never experienced something like this in my life and now I know I'm an addict. After this I went two full weeks without porn, but the voice came back, the urage - and again. I gave in. Now I'm here, asking for help! Please, help me, what can I do when I'm in "Porn Mode"? When I'm home alone, exhausted and the voice comes to my head telling me to do it? It's so strong and I know I will give in again. Is there any tips to help me get distracted? Sometimes I can distract myself, but only for a short period of time until it comes back. I'm thankful for anything because I'm truly desperate here. I'm angry with myself for being so weak - how can this be? Cheers!
1) Have a battle plan, which you are building now. When the urges, pain, etc come, you won't be able to think. 2) Find things you enjoy to do. A simple, inexpensive method could be to immediately leave your home and go for a walk. If you have a favorite coffee shop, go there and chat with the baristas or something to combat the being alone. If you have to, have a lislt of phone numbers or people you can skype/facetime/etc with, i.e. family or friends. You don't have to let them know why you are calling, but just chatting with them, especially by video, will be a barrier to PMO. 3) Make a list of your personal motivations as to why you are stopping PMO. Put them somewhere easily accessible. If you prefer paper, put it in your wallet. If you prefer digital, put it on the notepad in your phone. When an urge comes on, get reminded why you're doing this. If it's for a person, maybe your SO, put their picture in with your list.
