What stopped me from relapsing after 49 days

Thank you Atomic Tango.

 

Kingpietro, I am not disagreeing with you about Tinder. I even said that I was wasting my time and no longer wanted to use the site. And you are right, it can lead back to porn, because some girls who use Tinder are also on other sites that are sexually explicit. This happened to me last Sunday, where a girl wanted us to meet told me that I needed to know something about her before we met. She wanted me to check her profile on this site which I then found out was a hookup site for sex and had porn ads. That was my wake up call to no longer use Tinder because I was tempted to relapse the last 3 days. We all met nice girlfriends in the past, and the nice ones were not met on dating sites. I am no going to get into my past history why I have been on Tinder for the last two months or so, but what has happened recently is enough incentive to stay away from dating apps.

 

Thanks, I did not take no offense to Pietro's remarks, but I did mention that if he read the whole thread, he would have seen that I agree with him that Tinder saps away precious time and can lead back to PMO. He has made some valid points. Still I thank you for showing support and encouragement. You are a noble soul AtomicTango.

 

Thank you and God bless you. Brother I have heard about this app Self Control. The next weeks to come, I will be on vacation and then back to school. So social media will not be a problem, because I will be too busy studying and concentrating on improving my life situation. And I guarantee you it does get better as time goes by ;-)

 

The mind has a tendency of doing that. Well said.

 

Almost did happen to me three days ago due to a particular woman I talked to on that site last week. Thank you for your good advice.

 

Doing more reading these days. I will hit the gym again this weekend. Yes it is hard, but we must remember that if we focus our attention and energy elsewhere into something that makes us more proactive, it can become a positive lifetime habit

 

God bless you too Irongamer. And congragulations on 170 days. I agree with that the brain, especially the mind ,has trouble adapting if we were masturbating on porn because of past frustrated issues. I can say I did not really have a problem with porn, but more with masturbation. I masturbated a lot when I was frustrated being single for long periods of time, lack of sex, boredom , anxiety, you name it. I would do it a lot it would calm me down, help me sleep better at night, have a better concentration, but it was totally the opposite. M.O. became a constant obsession that when my imagination was no longer sufficient, I needed porn and images of naked girls to continue this bad habit. When I quit fifty days ago, I had some goals that could make me accomplish great things. Instead I was still hung up over my ex and this is probably why I joined Tinder, when I could have worked out, read and practice my hobbies instead. Now I know what to do.