What should I do about sexual thoughts?

My counter is a lot lower than yours, so obviously take my advice with a pinch of salt, but sexual thoughts for me are like a two-way thing. If they're plaguing me I feel the best thing is to have distractions. A project to work on, something like that. If they're less frequent my long term goal is to have them just be more healthy. I'd like to have sexual thoughts and enjoy them without having to take them to any kind of physical conclusion. The goal is better sexual health after all.

 

distraction + ignorance + persistence = happiness
distraction- distract yourself think something else or focus on other thing
ignorance- ignore it much as you can (do you know we see our nose every time but our brain decides to ignore it)
persistence -keep ignoring and distracting yourself until it goes
happiness -you will feel it

 

This may sound silly, but it is simple and it works.

Whenever you have any sort of sexual thought that is turning you on, think of some specific, concrete thing. Like shoes, or bricks, or acorns or cars; it doesn't matter. The point is, as soon as you think, "bears," your mind will see bears. The more specific the better. A friend of mine said, "your brain is like a kitten; it will play with anything." If you're thinking about bricks, unless you're very unusual, you're not getting turned on! And you're not thinking about the other thing.

Of course, you may not think about bricks very long -- they are boring to most people. But that gives you a way to change the subject. Then the next step is to choose something to think about that matters to you, that is interesting to you, but isn't going to get you into trouble.

By the way, this also works for me when I'm in bed, and I'm trying to get to sleep, and without actually thinking of anything in particular, I start thinking about my stuff down below, and before I know it, I'm getting an erection for no particular reason.

All this is pretty simple, and if you keep at it, it will become second nature.