COMMITMENT. You have to commit. What I realize is there can not be any luke warmness or hesitancy. It is all or nothing. You have to be all in, otherwise you will have the same result: FAILURE Some people may disagree, but the truth is that you will never last long at all no matter how much you hate pmo, no matter how many vows you take, no matter how strong your current will power is. In just a few days or weeks, you will have a urge, and likely forget why you had such hatred towards this before. You fall into the trap and repeat, you are stuck in the cycle. The only way to break out of the cycle is to viciously break free. You are in this cycle don't you see. It requires nothing besides your utmost best to get out of it. You cannot be half hearted about this. This is from a guy who is either in 90+ day streaks or binging in the cycle. Be a man of your word. Be committed. Don't be doubly minded. This is the start of a mindset that will enable you to break free of endless 7-21 day cycles
Good post, it's amazing how we forget when the urge strikes. It's 2 different states of mind and leaves us like split people. I just said in my last post that it's a dead end road that never changes. We have to stop ramming into it.
Totally agree. Unfortunately it's human nature to "decide" to change when shit hits the fan, which leads to a quick relapse once things get back to normal. Only way is to fully analyze WHY you're doing it, have clear goals and motivation for doing it. I'm currently focussing on what awaits me at the end, which is a 'cleaner', healthier and more fulfilled life, better relationships, frame of mind, energy, focus etc. On Day 3, and despite the fact that temptation is high, I'm sticking with my resolve!
@Fluets_2 Hey man, hope that what i wrote here helped. Let these words speak truth to you I’ve had many periods like you described in your post: periods where i just can’t seem to break free. One of the things that helps get me out of it is a change in mindset to all or nothing You can do this!!!
YES WE CAN DO THIS, YES! you are so right gotta own up responsibility to my stupidity and get my shit together and just fight and fight!! We hit ROCK BOTTOM BUT WE CAN GET OUT OF IT!
Proverbs 24:16 - "For a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again" Key is to don't give up and learn from the last relapse. You may feel bad about it, but take your strength from it and make yourself ready to leave that addiction behind you forever! Stay strong!
That's the Words of an experienced nofapper I think everyone knows it deep inside them but they don't trully trully realize this truth until they try over and over and fail for a long time It took my two years of trying to reach this point, to trully commit and ditch all porn and psubs entirely without hesitation and stick to nofap, two years to find my why For any newfapper that might see this:don't wait until the pain of being the same outweighs the pain of change Good post, everyone should remember this