We usually obsess over our appearance. And when we fap, lose confidence and come out looking like shit, that doesn't help. But after I've relapsed, I find that if I don't look in the mirror and don't obsess over what I look like, I start to get better. Since I don't obsess over myself, I no longer obsess over the appearance of those I'm sexually attracted to. I start to see people less as sex objects. And over a long period of no fapping, my body will naturally look better and healthier anyways. That doesn't mean I don't take care of myself or engage in personal hygiene. It's just I don't spend time looking at myself in the mirror thinking how ugly I am and then using that to see how beautiful those are I'm attracted to. We're all human, and we're all ugly and beautiful in our own ways. So I try to get beyond that.
I'd like to share my perspective I believe that you become what you eat. *not literally* eat healthy and you'll be healthy a month ago, I didn't have that much big of a nofap streak to brag about but still my diet and workout was on point (100 pushups 100 situps 100 squats m8) and I saw my old photos, i looked so amazing even thou i was in my room playing video games Now I eat what i want since we're moving to another city and i want to enjoy while i still can and I saw my pics, i didn't look that good like before. My face has a glow idk how before. not its gone. I'm not sad about it, i've learnt almost everything that we can start today to build blocks of success. they are: (incase ur curious) 1- workout, even if you're fat, workout makes you look lively 2- eating healthy (goes hand in hand with the above point) 3- nofap (ofc who can't give credits to their improved social skills and confidence to nofap 4- having a goal in mind (atleast for the day like a to do list) 5- not falling for girls. if the girl is worth it, she'll come by herself to you. you don't need to change yourself or try to get her.