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What does it generally means

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Gjey, May 13, 2022.

  1. Gjey

    Gjey Fapstronaut

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    Hi folks,
    I went to the beach with friends and I noticed that 2 girls were looking at me. Even one of my friend ( a girl) told me that they didn't take their eyes off me. However, I am not certain as I am only reallit fit.. but have an ugly face in my opinion.

    I don't know if it's all in my head and I'm actually attractive but I am often right about things. I have confidence in my abilities but clearly not in my appearence even though I eat healty, sleep well, train hard at the gym and do cardio. I try to look clean.

    Still, I don't like my face and I find it hard to believe that girls can be attracted to me.
    (PS : I had GFs in the past but nothing now)

    So, what does it means when a girl is staring at you ?
     
  2. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    I'd wager that you probably don't have an ugly face; it's only in your mind's eye through some self-deprecation that entered in your life somewhere in the past. Getting past addiction and demoralizing behaviors start to cure those inner wounds of self-depreciation, the real reason you need addictions in the first place, as a poor and failed treatment, a quick high (dopamine spike in the brain) and anesthetization that doesn't last or cure anything. And once that wound begins to heal after many months of sobriety, your transformed inner consciousness into self-confidence and an inner embrace of a newly realized inner peace and beauty will come out more so and reflect in your face and features all the more. As when we know that someone has an inner beauty, their outward features become all the more radiant. This can/will happen for you. Best wishes on your recovery path and makeover!
     
  3. Gjey

    Gjey Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for your answer ;) !!
    I guess you are right. I'm currently working hard on making my life better and I am disciplined. Also, I'm getting rid of porn once and for all !!
    I take care of my appearance and try to be at my best aven though I'm not tall (173cm) and wearing glasses.
    I will keep going !!

    Best wishes bro ;)
     
  4. MarioCorrelos

    MarioCorrelos Fapstronaut

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    Back in the day I didn't like myself either, physically. Didn't like my face, didn't like parts of my body. If the age in your profile is correct, it was around that age that I started changing how I saw myself. With age comes acceptance, and with that acceptance comes comfortability with oneself.

    Obviously it's not a conscious or voluntary process, so I'm not gonna tell you to force yourself to change it. Just giving you hope that the importance you give to certain aspects usually changes with time.
     
  5. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    I had the same. I felt like my face/head is really ugly. Its not. I did not even believe when sone ppl told me Im nice. But than I just realized ppl like me, girls. So I got used to the idea Im not extremely ugly.

    I think I will talk to more ppl about it. Girls I speak to. Most likely they will tell me Im insane thinking I might be really really ugly.

    I believe.. its some shut from the past, which made us think we are ugly AF. Its a mindfuck which can go on for decades.. it certainly was the case for me. :/

    Stay strong, you most likely are not ugly. And most certainly not AS ugly as u think.
     
  6. is it possible you could get contacts instead? Ditching the glasses would bump you up a point or two tbh.
    Have you asked anyone about your appearance??
     

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