What counts as actual relapse?

I'm new to this site, but I don't think that should count as a relapse (except maybe the 1st few weeks of the Reboot period). I figured the whole point of stopping PMO or at least porn is so you improve quality of life and have better erections for real sex. Makes little sense if THAT counts as a relapse.

 

PMO = relapse

Edging = Masturbation

Sex is not relapse unless you decide it...

 

Growth and relapse happen all the time and organically. I am not a huge fan to the term a relapse. I think a more healthy way to look at it is should I reset my counter? Because by accepting what you've done is negative is in itself growth.
If your goal is no pmo then you should reset your counter if you:
P: look a P or a Psub (especially if you go looking for it, sometimes you might just see something and had no control, eg a movie, but it's how you then react following that if it sets you back)
M: start M'ing ( as nofepper said edging = M regardless of O)
Or
O: if you are playing hard mode.

But the only person that can decide when to reset is you and I implore you to honestly ask yourself "should I reset my counter, and why?"

 

It's your journey, you make the rules and you set the goals. Do what's right for you, not anyone else. Just be honest with yourself and take care of yourself