what classes a relapse?

Be easier on yourself! You can't control what pops up in your Instagram feed or what comes on TV. What you CAN control is what comes after. For me, relapsing is edging or Oing. And do yourself a favor, unfollow that Insta account, or try to stop checking Instagram as much all together! And instead of TV, what can you do that's more productive? It helps a lot with reboots to consciously distract yourself with productive things rather than your phone or TV! Good luck!

 

Pretty much the only thing that really constitutes a relapse is if you actually PMO. Edging you can probably give yourself a pass on as long as you don't do it too much, and don't finish, but that's not a good thing to be doing. That said it definitely pays to avoid triggers, and don't seek things out either. You goal should be to have a healthy relationship with your sexuality, not necessarily to live like a monk (though you can certainly do that if you want/think you need to). If you want to have sex with your wife, that's a good outlet.. in fact it's your BEST outlet... but beware the chaser effects after you have sex with her. Those can be pretty bad and will be the times went you want to PMO the most. For me the best thing to do is avoid porn entirely, since it really does have little redeeming value and just skews your sense of reality and what is good sex.

 

I'd class a relapse as aiming to find and do what your trying to avoid. If you encounter it by accident then no it's not a relapsed. However if you're easily triggered I'd advise trying to avoid places that may contain such triggers.

 

If your trying to separate from fact and fiction; if you O during sex you can pass if you want to be true with yourself that's relapse, purposely or deliberately watching sex or p-subs,you feel more aroused and keep looking then your setting yourself back more and more. I don't know what the sex scene or T.v I just be careful not to be triggered by an image. That's my take on it, but you be your judge.