Okay, so I'm currently on day 25 of hard mode to try and cure my delayed ejaculation, which has been present ever since I started having sex (numbness, v little sensitivity, frustrated partners etc.). So at about 5am this morning I had a really vivid sexual dream, resulting in my ejaculating hard during my sleep and waking up. Now, given how much I struggle to ejaculate through PIV, I had always assumed my DE was physical, I.e. due to death grip. However, as I was able to climax during my sleep without even touching down there, does this mean my DE is most likely psychological? Grateful for your thoughts. Thanks, RedEd
Hey there man. I'm not a medical professional, but one thing I know for sure is that the human body is awesome in the way it regulates, rebalances & adapts. You're almost a month into your reboot & from what I know, it takes about 3 months for the brain to rewire & revert to it's "default settings". So it's possible that your DE situation has a significant psychological component. How are you feeling about experiencing DE right now? Hopefully it's not causing you too much anxiety. PMO really messes with our wiring & most people find that their bodies & minds react in all sorts of ways during the hard reboot. I'd suggest you sit tight, keep up the good fight & do some further reading if you feel inclined. The mind-body will reboot eventually - of that we can be confident. T22.
Hey man. Thanks for the response. Admittedly this is my second nofap attempt but I've been free from P since before Christmas. In that respect my reboot is definitely going well! I think hard mode is definitely the way forward though, for me at least. Truth be told, I'm not happy about my DE at all, hence my getting into nofap. I do think about it during sex, simply because it has always been there. With my last gf I was able to cum 75% of the time, but only in certain positions (doggy and other with lots of grinding). For this reason I thought my DE must be from loss of sensitivity due to fapping for years. This morning I just thought, if I can cum from just dreams during my sleep without touching, why is it so hard to cum during sex?! For this reason I thought it could be psychological. Maybe I struggle to let go during PIV. I don't know why this could be though. Very frustrating, but at the same time, I have the utmost faith in nofap to sort this out!!
If you have such a strong wet dream your hardware is functioning very well. That is excellent news. If on the other hand you can not performed to your expectation the problem is psychological. The best thing is to continue with your rebooting until you reach your goal, possibly without engaging in sexual activity. When you think you are ready find someone who is not pressuring you to perform like a stud. You probably would want to involve in very basic needs we have such as touching, cuddling and kissing without thinking about the performance part. Your partner has to know that you are in therapy and that person has to be very understanding. I am sure you will be able to have a strong performance just like the one you had this morning while asleep. Good luck
Very true. Nice to know we are fighting the same fight. I don't know what stage of my reboot I'm at at the moment, but it's clearly not flatlining. Had more vivid dreams last night/this morning. Nothing porn related but just my own imagination. I take it as a sign the reboot process is working! I have no compulsion to use porn as I know the long terms gains will be so much greater than the short term fix.
Guys. I cheated last night. Not in a bad way, but I had PIV and it was a success! Not a hint of PIED and I came after around 20 mins, which is really quick for me. I had even had a few drinks beforehand. Very happy! I know I've still a long way to go, but feel my reboot is really coming on. I haven't watched any P vids or cams since before Christmas now, and feel this is important in helping with PIED. And I haven't M'd now for 30 days, which seems to be helping the DE. Taken together, this is the most convinced I have been so far that nofap is working. I know it's hard, but stick with it! I am still early in my nofap journey but more confident than ever that this process is working and makes a real difference. RedEd
Great. I am so glad for you. It looks like you are beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Congratulations.
Ive been having exact same issue as you, ever since starting its always had DE. but im a little under a 1/3 of the way in and finally met an awesome girl last week and slept together the entire weekend but only got of once from PIV after at least 8 sessions I have been MO while not watching porn so will now try to stay away from that after reading what you have said!
Good work. When you say just over a third in, I assume you're doing the 90 day challenge? Yes, I'd recommend stopping MO completely if I were you. As I say, I've still a long way to go myself but have noticed a big improvement from cutting this out. Stay strong bro.
Yeah thats the one but probably going to reset to last MO which was 10 days or would you reset each time you O after PIV? I tried to not O but seriously felt like I was gonna die if I didn't haha
